When mistakes are judged, shamed and connected to child’s worth + belonging (conditional teaching): ✔️Kids learn to feel shame when they naturally struggle✔️Kids learn that conflict is binary: good/bad, right/wrong✔️Kids hold in their feelings + needs out of fear of shame✔️Kids are more likely to lie, blame, + defend to feel safe When mistakes neutrally explored and NOT connected to child’s worth + belonging (unconditional teaching): ✨Kids learn to feel safe when they struggle and grow✨Kids...

We're all stressed! Tune in to learn the 3 tools we use for stress de-escalation in the moment and rhe 4 ways we examine stressful situations or conflict to reduce disconnect and meet needs between us and our kids -- to feel. better and do better all around! Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive, strong-willed and/or neurodivergent kid?✨You’re not alone! Happy 1 year anniversary to The Upbringing Collective–...

We loved connecting with friend and colleague, author and speaker Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo about her new book, Parenting Beyond Power! ✨ Tune in to learn more about ways to use connection and collaboration to transform your family — and the world!  Visit Jen's website for ways to purchase her book and check below, Oregon folx, for information on her book tour as it passes through at the end of October! 🎉 October 28th: Sip & Sign at Circle Round October 29th: Workshop at...

Tune in to hear the 4 magical ways we can work WITH our kids to help them get homework, chores, hygiene, manners, safety, dressing, toileting and bedtime achieved WITHOUT coercion -- independently, completely, consistently and WITH JOY. Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone! Happy 1 year anniversary to The Upbringing Collective– our coaching + community...

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone! Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family! ✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The...

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn the tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid? ✨ You’re not alone! This week only: enroll in The Upbringing Collective, our coaching + community membership– AND get a FREE 60 min coaching call with us when you enroll for the year! 🎉 The membership includes: ✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all...

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone! Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family! ✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The...

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone! Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family! ✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The...

Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone! Visit our shop and choose the support that works right now for your family! ✨ Downloadable PDF Guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our membership community, The...

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Are you motivated to master the mindset + learn shame-free, consent-based tools to overcome challenges with your sensitive + strong-willed kid?✨You’re not alone! Visit our SHOP and choose the support that works right now for your family! ✨ Downloadable pdf guides for calm bodies, big feelings and sibling conflict✨ Poster prints for your home and playrooms✨ Two-on-one coaching sessions to build a connective family plan for the holiday month ahead✨ Learn more about our new membership community,...

Are you parenting a sensitive + strong-willed kid that challenges your beliefs, stamina and sanity beyond measure? ✨You’re not alone! The Upbringing Collective– our new coaching + community membership– is NOW OPEN for enrollment! 🎉 It includes: ✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️ Weekly group coaching sessions with us (H+K) for support with all your biggest challenges✔️ Themed chat rooms for lively discussions + support based on...

Every feel flooded? Triggered? Too emotionally hijacked to respond calmly to yourkids' big feelings and challenging behaviors? Join our conversation with Jen Lumanlan of Your Parenting Mojo to talk about ways to calm our minds and bodies so we don't keep losing our shit on our kids! Jen explores ways we can stop cycles of trauma and begin healing through our parenting practices. Her Taming Your Triggers Workshop is LIVE! This is the course we ALL need to be able to lean in with calm clarity...

Are you parenting a sensitive + strong-willed kid that challenges your beliefs, stamina and sanity beyond measure? ✨ You’re not alone! We loved connecting with Amy of @grow.up.ig about her experience parenting a “lightning bolt kid” and her evolution through small group coaching with us! The Upbringing Collective– our new coaching + community membership– is NOW OPEN for enrollment! 🎉 It includes: ✔️ An inclusive, secure online forum to connect with like-minded caregivers across the globe✔️...

Curious about how to align your progressive values with your daily parenting practices? The Upbringing Collective Coaching Community is open for enrollment -- Sept. 19th - Sept 25th! Together, we’ll:  ✔️Reframe our kids + our role based on the current research ✔️Learn shame-free, consent-based tools to reduce conflict ✔️Share challenges + wins in community with like-minded folks  ✔️Find confidence + joy alongside our sensitive, strong-willed kids ✔️Examine how our childhoods impact our...

Should we believe that using consequences, threats, shame, isolation etc. is the best way to teach + prepare kids for adulthood? NO!  Today’s Q&A explores how we can bravely work to believe that our kids grow best from our CONNECTION, not our CONTROL. Though our instinct tells us to fix, stop or punish their big feelings + challenging behaviors, practicing powers beyond control with our kids creates a sense of security for them that allows their brains to learn + our relationship to...

Should we believe that our primary job is to explicitly teach our kids how to behave politely in the world? NO! We can bravely work to believe that our primary job is to ally with our kids through challenges. Why? How? Tune in and download our new free download on the site! Where do you struggle when it comes to this radical concept? If you’re looking for more research-informed reframes and mantras, download our new free guide for ALL of Upbringing’s Keys to Show Up + Grow Up with your...

Should we believe that kids’ big feelings + challenging behaviors are negative, unnecessary or worrisome signs about them or us? NO!  We can bravely work to see our kids’ resistance as VALUABLE. Viewing our kids’ big feelings + challenging behaviors as natural + a helpful way to understand their needs can allow everyone to know, feel + do better. Let kids resist!  Where do you struggle when it comes to this radical concept? If you’re looking for more research-informed reframes and mantras,...

Today's episode is a re-airing of one of our top podcasts where we explore 10 ways we are attempting to parent for sanity and social change through our discipline. We'll be on a quick spring break and back to you all soon! Secure your chance for a spot in our upcoming Show Up + Grow Up Membership community HERE! Relevant Links: - Our Freedoms Model - Our RESIST Approach - Our Shop - GUIDES + PRINTS! - Our Resources Page - Our Coaching page - Amber Okamura, Upbringing’s Artist - Mary...

Last call to join our Show Up + Grow Up small group coaching for May -- club meets this Monday May 9th! Mondays at 11am- 1PM PST - MAY 9th, 16th, 23rd + 30th. Work with us to build values and skills around: 🌈 Body positivity + safety🌈 Emotional regulation🌈 Non-violent communication🌈 Boundary-setting🌈 Family agreements🌈 Natural consequences🌈 Humor + perspective🌈 Camaraderie + cooperation🌈 Consent culture GRAB YOUR SPOT FOR SMALL GROUP COACHING IN MAY! Mondays at 11am- 1PM PST - MAY 9th, 16th,...

Last call to join our Show Up + Grow Up small group coaching for May! Work with us to build values and skills around: 🌈 Body positivity + safety🌈 Emotional regulation🌈 Non-violent communication🌈 Boundary-setting🌈 Family agreements🌈 Natural consequences🌈 Humor + perspective🌈 Camaraderie + cooperation🌈 Consent culture GRAB YOUR SPOT FOR SMALL GROUP COACHING IN MAY! Mondays at 11am- 1PM PST - MAY 9th, 16th, 23rd + 30th. You’ll receive:✔️4 coaching sessions with Hannah & Kelty✔️2 hrs per...

Thank you for a great convo! Parenting is revolutionary and the way we treat our kids can change the world. Last chance to enroll in the virtual Parenting Forward Conference, beginning April 25th! We loved connecting with Cindy Wang Brandt about how to support sensitive kids. The conference also hosts some of our favorite parenting leaders of all time: Mr. Chazz, Rosalia Rivera, Jen Lumanlan, Shelly Robinson, Leslie Priscilla Arreola-Hillenbrand and Vivek Patel, among others -- Learn from...

Our Right From The Start baby video course and community is now OPEN for enrollment! The course will bring you both the reassurance AND information you need in your baby’s first year to make the decisions that are uniquely right for your family. ✨ No prescribed rules, no perfection to attain… Just the essentials to help you move forward with clarity and confidence. In nine modules over eight weeks, Right from the Start will help you to: ✔️ Understand what scientific research says about baby’s...

We loved connecting with Rachel of the 3 in 30 podcast about supporting our older siblings when a new baby comes into the family! From Rachel's show notes: For all you mamas of one out there, what do you envision when you imagine adding a second baby to your family? And for all of your mamas of multiple out there, what do you remember about adding a second baby to your family? My guests on the podcast today are Hannah and Kelty, the twin sisters and founders of the parenting movement...