Are you ready to unlock the mysteries of female sexuality? Come As You Are is a must-read for all vulva-owners and the partners who want to please them. In this episode, the Wives interview author Emily Nagoski on how her can help all women maximize their capacity for pleasure.  But before we dive into the details, mix yourself up this episode's Cocktail - the Blood Orange Mule, while Ams recounts a ridiculous attempt to buy THC-infused lube in California Then, the Wives FAN-GIRL over their favorite author, Emily Nagoski, and her award-winning book, Come As You Are. Based on their initial read, the Wives learned the nitty gritty of female anatomy (how male parts and female parts are analogs of each other!), the Dual Control Model (with the notorious sexual "accelerators" and "brakes"), the difference between spontaneous and responsive desire and how to get all parts of your mind and body moving in one direction, for absolutely mind-blowing pleasure. Next,  the Wives go straight to the source, interviewing the incomparable Emily Nagoski, on Come As You Are as well as her newest project, which focuses on staying connected in a long term relationship.  Finally, the Wives assign themselves sexy homework: time to check out Come As You Are, the Workbook.   If you find female sexuality confusing and even frustrating, this book is a game-changer.   A very special thanks to Abbey Snider for editing assistance on this episode!  You can check out Abbey's podcast, Sweet Baby Gay at https://abbeydotproductions.com/.