Summary In this episode of the 4 Fit Fatherhood podcast, Rod Richard interviews Kyle Wester, a licensed professional counselor and parenting expert. They discuss the importance of an inside-out approach to parenting, focusing on the internal needs of children rather than just their behavior. Kyle emphasizes the power of curiosity and self-reflection in responding to challenging situations with children. He shares personal experiences and strategies for creating a positive and loving environment for children to thrive. The conversation explores the shift from using fear as a parenting tool to embracing vulnerability and connection. Fear-based discipline is ineffective and perpetuates more fear. The key is to build a strong relationship with your child based on love and trust. Spending intentional, enjoyable time with your child is crucial for building that connection. It's important to retrain your brain to respond rather than react in challenging situations. This can be done by pausing, taking a deep breath, and choosing a different voice. The goal is to guide and disciple your child towards becoming a better person. In this conversation, Kyle Wester and Rod Richard discuss the importance of being playful and flowing with your children to guide their behavior. They share personal anecdotes and insights on how to create connection and cooperation with your kids. Kyle emphasizes the need for fathers to embrace their role and be present for their children, while Rod highlights the importance of being a supportive and loving father. The conversation also touches on the Art of Raising Humans podcast and the transformative power of fatherhood. Takeaways An inside-out approach to parenting focuses on addressing the internal needs of children rather than just their behavior. Curiosity and self-reflection are key in responding to challenging situations with children. Modeling gratitude and enjoyment is important in teaching children to be grateful and enjoyable. Discipline does not have to be aggressive or fear-based; it can be done with love and understanding. Strength in parenting is found in having an open hand and not needing to control children. Fear-based discipline is ineffective and perpetuates more fear. Building a strong relationship with your child based on love and trust is crucial. Spending intentional, enjoyable time with your child helps build that connection. Retraining your brain to respond rather than react in challenging situations is key. The goal is to guide and disciple your child towards becoming a better person. Being playful and flowing with your children can help guide their behavior and create connection. Fathers should embrace their role and be present for their children, supporting and loving them unconditionally. Shame and fear should be replaced with confidence and acceptance in parenting. Fatherhood is a transformative journey that shapes both the father and the child. The Art of Raising Humans podcast provides valuable insights and discussions on parenting as a team. Chapters 00:00 Introduction and the Need for Information on Fatherhood 13:10 Curiosity and Self-Reflection in Understanding Children's Behavior 30:19 The Changing Value of Women and Fear in Parenting 45:53 Building a Strong Connection through Intentional Activities 53:57 Retraining Reactions and Defaulting to a Positive Voice 01:01:07 Guiding Children through Connection 01:26:23 New Chapter www.4fitfatherhood.com You have a limited offer you can use now, that gets you up to 48% off your first subscription or 20% off one time purchases with code 4FIT20 at checkout You can claim it at: https://magicmind.com/4fit20 --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/4fitfatherhood/support