What messages are we getting about sexual hookups from a male POV? “It’s just part of the college experience.”  Or, “it’s no big deal.”  Culture, including songs and media, glorifies and normalizes hookups. Parents may say, “just don’t do it.”  But…when it seems like everyone else is going for it, we may say to ourselves “why not?”  Are the gendered ideas about hookups still relevant?  Today’s 7 On Sundays guests, John and Dave (chosen pseudonyms), are both freshmen from different parts of the country. While they do not speak for their entire gender or generation, their insight and perspectives might surprise you.    TIMESTAMPS [00:01:26] Intro of two young college men sharing their thoughts on dating and hookup culture [00:04:07] Dave and John talk about hookup culture today and its definition [00:06:11] The stigma and societal expectations of hookup culture [00:08:20] The desire to choose relationships over hookups [00:09:26] Societal pressure on young men to engage in hookup culture [00:11:33] Self-actualization and young men's views of relationships [00:14:01] The potential judgment towards girls based on their sexual behavior [00:21:14] Entitlement and expectations associated with buying drinks for someone [00:31:06] The importance of young people discussing tough topics [00:33:02] Respect and expectations in hookups [00:35:32] Consent and the potential consequences of not obtaining clear consent [00:47:40] The influence of social media on hookup culture and perceptions of girls [00:54:18] Fear of rejection and having confidence in dating [01:05:50] Playing the game of relationships in the digital age