Episodes
It is so tempting to try and rationalize with our child’s OCD. It’s a knee jerk reaction that most of us do at some point. We might try to problem-solve their OCD issues away. We might try to bombard them with facts. We might try to convince them that their compulsive behavior won’t do what OCD says it will do. But it is all a waste of breath. And worse than that, it can do some unintentional harm. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I talk about why we shouldn’t rationalize with our...
Published 05/24/22
How often do we hear from family, friends and even doctors that we should “wait and see” if it gets worse. We should wait and see if the anxiety or OCD grows bigger. We should wait and see if anxiety or OCD becomes debilitating. We should wait and see if it is truly an issue. It is like watching a tornado slowly approach your home and waiting to see if you really need to go seek shelter. When we proactively help our kids with any anxiety or OCD issue we help them long term. The skills our...
Published 05/17/22
Anxious kids often have a hard time trying new things. This might impact what they’ll eat, what activities they’ll try or how they feel about going to new places. It can permeate their lives in a way that limits their experiences and holds them back. When we cater to these fears we can unintentionally grow them bigger. But when we force our kids to try new things we can them shut down.  So what are parents supposed to do?  The key is to help our kids build skills so they can not only tolerate...
Published 05/10/22
OCD can be stigmatizing enough, but when you add sexual themes it can add another layer of guilt and shame.  It can also make parents and even therapists uncomfortable!  How are you supposed to deal with a sexual intrusive thought that makes you squirm? What if your child’s lack of motivation is due to the embarrassment over the content of their thoughts? I invited Tracie Ibrahim, an OCD therapist with NOCD to help me unpack the many ways sexual themes can pop up and how to help them through...
Published 05/03/22
Many kids have fears of animals and insects, but for some it can dominate their lives. They might worry about seeing the feared animal or insect. They might go out of their way to avoid an encounter. It might be an all consuming fear that impacts the things they love and enjoy. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast,I invited author and psychologist, Dawn Huebner to help us learn how to help our kids with these fears. Dawn Huebner is the author of the popular books, What to Do When Your...
Published 04/26/22
There are many things that can put a strain on marriages. Once the honeymoon is over it can be a struggle to agree on finances, household chores and parenting. When anxiety or OCD is in the mix it can make a hard situation even harder. Couples can struggle with a variety of issues around their child’s anxiety or OCD including: -Disagreeing on the seriousness of their child’s anxiety or OCD. -Blaming each other or their parenting for the issue. -Wanting to approach the issue...
Published 04/19/22
Many kids have what some people call “pure O” or purely obsessional thoughts. But more often than not those obsessional thoughts are quieted by a menu of mental compulsions that go along with it. So what is a parent to do if their child is doing unseen mental compulsions? I explore “Pure O” and mental compulsions in this week’s episode of the  AT Parenting Survival Podcast. *** This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To...
Published 04/12/22
As parents, we all struggle with our children’s tech use. It seems like most kids have their heads buried in their phone, computer or game console.  But what if it goes deeper? What if they are using technology to avoid their anxiety or OCD? What if they are using tech to do compulsions? Or what if tech is part of what is actually growing their anxiety? In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I talk about how anxiety and OCD impact tech use and what we can do about it. If you want a...
Published 04/05/22
OCD is often like whack a mole. Just when you get one OCD theme under control, BOOM, another one creeps in to take its place. This can be disheartening, especially if you don’t have the right mindset. OCD is an octopus and its tentacles are the themes. It doesn’t matter what tentacle is causing disruption, it’s the octopus that’s the problem. Often OCD will present new themes when our kids are making progress with old ones. It doesn’t necessarily mean it’s a step backwards, sometimes it is a...
Published 03/29/22
OCD approaches are constantly evolving and changing. This is in part due to the wonderful, ongoing research around OCD. In recent years we’ve seen a growing number of OCD therapists incorporate ACT, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, into OCD therapy.  We’ve also seen more clinicians embrace the Inhibitory Learning Model approach and have seen practitioners adapt ERP (Exposure with Response Prevention) to reflect these changes. So what does this all mean? In this week’s AT Parenting Survival...
Published 03/22/22
Anxious thoughts grow, build momentum and turn into an avalanche of overwhelm. But what if kids with anxiety were taught how to stop the mental chaos before it grew out of control? What if they were able to reframe their fears and calm their mind? When kids have anxiety, one of the most powerful tools at their disposal are thoughts themselves!   In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I discuss the power of helping anxious kids reframe their thinking.  This podcast episode is sponsored...
Published 03/15/22
Parenting can seem overwhelming and exhausting. But when you look at it through the lens of conscious parenting, it can offer some hidden gems. Parenting can tell us so much about ourselves. It can offer us insights that we might not have gotten otherwise.  Our kids can also be our teachers. They come with so many gifts if we allow ourselves to see it that way. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I talk to Sue DeCaro about what it means to be a conscious parent and how we can use...
Published 03/08/22
Anxiety and OCD doesn’t just live within our child, it lives within our home. It impacts everyone in the family, including the siblings. What happens to the sibling when all eyes are focused on the child with anxiety or OCD? What happens to them when there are big meltdowns, panic attacks and overwhelm. What happens when they are the target of those BIG feelings? In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I talk about how to help the siblings of kids with anxiety or...
Published 03/01/22
It is so hard to see our kids struggle. As parents, many of us know what things might trigger our child’s anxiety.  How often do we flinch before they feel anxious?  How often do we swoop in and remove the trigger before our child experiences it?  How often do we catch them before they even fall? I know I have been guilty of this!  In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I talk about the knee jerk reaction to rescue our kids from potential anxiety and how it can actually serve to grow...
Published 02/22/22
Kids with anxiety or OCD need an anchor. They need us to be a rock that helps ground them through the chaos. Unfortunately we cannot do that when we are so immersed in their struggles that we are drowning right along with them. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I talk about learning how to lovingly detach from our child’s anxiety or OCD. I discuss how this is not about removing our love or ignoring our children’s problems, it’s just the opposite. I walk through the steps needed to...
Published 02/15/22
Parental burnout can take any one of us to our knees. When we are riding on fumes we aren’t good for anyone, including our kids. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I talk about things that cause parental burnout and what we can do to dig our way out of the hole. To take a deeper dive on this topic join my FREE AT Parenting Survival series: Self-Care for Parents Raising Kids with Anxiety and OCD.  In the FREE series we talk about: -Perceptions that hold you back -Triggers that can...
Published 02/08/22
OCD doesn’t just stay in our home, it likes to wreak havoc in all areas of life, including at school.  OCD intrusive thoughts and compulsions can make a child look like they: Struggle to read Struggle to write Struggle to do math equations  Struggle to complete assignments Struggle with comprehension Struggle with focus Struggle with expression Struggle with problem-solving Sometimes these struggles look like learning difficulties, and often it is just that. But sometimes it’s OCD hiding in...
Published 02/01/22
We have expectations about how our children’s lives should be. We have expectations about how our family should be. This can be reinforced by friends, family or even the school system. So what happens when all those expectations fall short? What happens when we look at our reality and it doesn’t match up? Parenting is messy and we don’t get to control how it unfolds. We don’t get to control our children’s struggles or what is plopped on our parenting plate. In this week’s AT Parenting...
Published 01/25/22
Anxiety and OCD don’t live in an isolated bubble. I wish they did! But unfortunately they often like to hang out with several other issues. The tricky part is knowing how to handle those issues differently, because they require us to do so. In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I talk about five common issues that are often seen with Anxiety and OCD. I also explore how those issues are handled differently than how we handle their other struggles. *** This podcast episode is sponsored...
Published 01/18/22
It is hard to watch your child being bombarded with intrusive thoughts day and night. No parent wants to see their child suffer, but how are they supposed to help their kids? Unfortunately when it comes to OCD, the answer is often counterintuitive.  In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore the nature of intrusive thoughts and the best ways parents can help their kids work through them. YouTube videos for kids/teens on intrusive...
Published 01/11/22
PSP: 243 Handling Preschooler Sleep Issues One of the first signs of anxiety in young children is sleep disturbance! Sleep disturbance can have a ripple effect throughout a child’s day. It can make them more cranky, anxious and irritable. It can make us, as parents, exhausted and impatient. That’s why I thought it would be helpful if I brought Allison, a sleep and wellness coach, onto the podcast! Allison focuses on supporting parents who are having newborn, toddler and preschooler sleep...
Published 01/04/22
We all have our ugly moments as parents. We all show up in ways we don’t want to show up for our kids with anxiety or OCD.  But what do we do after those ugly moments are over? In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast I explore what triggers ugly parenting moments and how we can repair our relationships after they are over. *** This podcast episode is sponsored by NOCD. NOCD provides online OCD therapy in the US, UK, Australia and Canada. To schedule your free 15 minute consultation to...
Published 12/28/21
We talk about helping our kids realize when it is their anxiety or OCD ruling their behavior. But what happens when we get a loud bark when we do it? Is it a bad sign if our child gets angry? Should we stop? In this week’s AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I talk about when and how to call out your child’s anxiety or OCD and what to do with their reactions. Also, if you want a deeper dive on how to address difficult behaviors caused by anxiety or OCD, take my Difficult Behavior Class that walks...
Published 12/21/21
When your child acts up do you take it personally? Do you have a knee jerk response that is filled with hurt, anger or frustration? Join the club! We all do at times. In this episode of the AT Parenting Survival Podcast, I am going to walk you through the most common reasons why this happens, how it impedes our child’s growth and what we can do instead. The doors to my AT Parenting Community are open and close on December 16, 2021. To join click here. To learn more about my Difficult Behavior...
Published 12/14/21