“I am 100% on-board that the spouses of sexual addicts need to be supported better than they are. I believe that is the mission of BTR. However, I feel that each circumstance is unique and each spouse needs to be supported on the way they best need. However, this podcast seems to focus almost exclusively on calling any man who has viewed pornography an abuser. I don’t hear much about healing, but about why we should call the man an abuser. I don’t see this as a helpful frame for either the spouse or the betrayer. Absolutely both need healing. The spouse needs a ton of support and understanding. And should be pointed to resources about gas-lighting and narcissism, and even abuse, when relevant. But running around calling every man who has viewed porn an abuser seems to miss the mark. I would hope the podcast would be more focused on how to find healing as a spouse than being so focused on the abuse term.”
MBirdno via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
10/24/19