Have you come to a place where you understand that some of the things that you do are not beneficial for you? Or are even hurtful to others?   What do you do once you’ve discovered this? Do you say, “Well, that’s just me.” Or, do you decide that you want to change these behaviors for your own good and the good of those you love? If so, how do you go about making these changes?   From the Green Book of Recovery: Wanting our lives to change is not the same thing as being actually ready for change. The negative patterns uncovered in our inventory represents a lifetime of ingrained beliefs, attitudes, and habits of behavior. Just becoming aware of them can be painful; imagining life without them may seem almost impossible.   Much of our resistance to change is based on fear. We may find it easier to continue in an unhappy, yet familiar, way of life, than to face an unknown and uncertain future. For many of us, our problems and shortcomings seem to define us as people: what would we be without them? Often, we find that our character defects started as a way to deal with difficult circumstances, in childhood or later. It is hard to let go of beliefs and behaviors that once helped us cope, or even kept us alive. If we are fearful, we can gently and courageously allow ourselves to consider the possibility of surrendering our familiar defects, trusting that our higher power will not give us more than we can handle.   Character defects are undesirable traits, attitudes, and beliefs that make our lives unmanageable, cause pain to others, and block our spiritual growth. Our problems did not begin with our sex addiction, nor do they end when we get into recovery. Step 6 builds on the recognition that our malady has roots that run deeper than just our acting-out behavior. It requires the willingness to change fundamentally, to be free of the failings that continue to create serious problems in our lives. Today we will talk about how we take our moral inventory and walk it out in a very practical way.     So, pour out your expired eggnog, grab yourself a fresh Cup o’ Jo and get ready to ask yourself some important questions.   We pray this blesses you,   Johnny and Emily   💜Work with us! Beyond Betrayal Breakthrough Coaching coaching.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Become a Beyond Broken Vows Insider! Receive our weekly newsletter with behind-the-scenes stories, marriage tips, podcast previews and early access to giveaways and promotions! insider.beyondbrokenvows.com 💜Send us a voice message on SpeakPipe   RESOURCES: Sex Addict Self-Assessment Questionnaire Covenant Eyes Use promo Code BBV to get 30 days free! (website purchase only) Green Book - Sex Addicts Anonymous: 3rd Edition Conference Approved Out of the Shadows: Understanding Sexual Addiction by Patrick Carnes, Ph.d Drop the Rock co-authored by Bill P., Todd W and Sara S. (This post may contain affiliate links to products. We earn a commission from qualifying purchases. As an Amazon Associate, we earn from qualifying purchases at no additional cost to you.)                        RELATED EPISODES: Episode 26. Recovery Step 1: Hooked on Porn? Admitting Helplessness Over Pornography’s Pull Episode 27. Recovery Step 2: Porn Making You Crazy? Believing God Can Restore Your Sanity Episode 29. Recovery Step 3: 3 Things To Know When Leaving Porn Behind Episode 31. Recovery Step 4: Who Am I? A Fearless Search - The Origin of My Sex Addiction Episode 32. Recovery Step 5: What Have I Done? Admitting How My Porn Addiction Hurt Myself and Others   NEXT STEPS:     ✔️FOLLOW so you don’t miss a show!     ✔️Leave a 5-star rating & written review on Apple Podcast. ✔️ You can connect with us at [email protected].     Disclaimer: The content presented in this podcast is provided solely for educational purposes and should be considered as general information. It is not intended to serve as therapy or psychological advice. We stro