In this episode, Zhara welcomes guest Nicole Kenwood-Brown to discuss the topic of manipulating pain for purpose. Nicole shares her personal journey of being a self-sacrificial lamb and the challenges she faced in finding balance and prioritizing herself. She emphasizes the importance of self-identity in marriage and the need to become a different person to attract a different version of your spouse. Nicole also highlights the role of research, creating a vision plan, and shifting focus from marriage to personal growth and God's plan. The episode concludes with a discussion on the impact of this transformation on the marriage and the spouse's reaction.  Takeaways Personal growth is essential in a relationship, and partners should support each other's growth.It is important to adjust to and embrace the different versions of your partner as they grow.Being a supportive partner does not mean being responsible for your partner's emotional balance.Maintaining a balance between openness and privacy in marriage is crucial. Chapters Markers 00:35 Meet the Host and Dive into the First Episode 01:55 Introducing Guest Nicole Kenwood Brown 02:35 Nicole's Personal Journey and Challenges 03:56 Understanding the Role of Self-Sacrifice in Relationships 07:29 Navigating Pain and Finding Purpose 07:49 The Impact of Personal Growth on Marriage 13:50 The Importance of Personal Growth and Accountability 18:24 Nicole's Journey to Healing and Self-Discovery 21:42 Understanding the Dynamics of Relationships 27:08 Nicole's Offerings and Resources 28:48 Addressing Listener Questions 31:28 Wrapping Up the Conversation Connect with Nicole  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/nicoleakenwood?igsh=N204b2YwM2k1cWFt Nicole’s Book :  https://amzn.to/3SYNP75 Connect the Host Follow Zhara on Instagram @ zhara.marie - https://www.instagram.com/zhara.marie?igsh=cDdiaGtrODRpcmtr&utm_source=qr Follow our podcast page @beyondthebouquetpod - https://www.instagram.com/zhara.marie?igsh=cDdiaGtrODRpcmtr&utm_source=qr