We've heard mindset is everything. Limiting Beliefs have been a popular (mainstream) way of expanding a restricted mind. But when you have a spiritual issue, you can affirm and challenge your thinking all you want and still not see the progress you should see. Strongholds are the spiritual parallels to Limiting Beliefs, but not quite equal. Strongholds are stronger and tricker to detect, in large part because mainstream culture doesn't even talk about it. Secondarily, many don't know how to...

A very common pattern in romantic relationships: one person is constantly trying to move the relationship in a particular direction and the other is sitting back, much less involved, engaged or active. One person feels they’re the only one that really cares and the other feels helpless and powerless to really make any change. There are 3 ways of looking at this dynamic -  1. Anxious / Avoidant  2. Codependent 3. Ahab / Jezebel We’ve talked a lot about the Anxious-Avoidant pair over the last 9...

What if the Self-Love movement is one big deception? What if the promises are empty and the consequences are eternal? Feeling good about yourself and thinking positively about yourself is great. But the best lies always have a little bit of truth in them. The best lies go right outside the bounds of the truth, expanding into territory that is not “real” and not “true.”  Whenever you’re working in “unreal territory,” your efforts are fruitless. It’s like chasing the gold at the end of the...

The Psychology world isn't telling you everything you need to know about the issues you're facing. I actually believe they leave out the most important part. The spiritual issues behind things like childhood trauma and the manifestations in adult life. The spiritual problem behind failed relationships and inability to maintain intimate connections. In this episode we're going deeper into what comes through those "open doors" we talked about in Episode 1 of this season and how to know if you...

It's a new season! Welcome to Season 10 This episode is broken up into two parts, the Standard Problem and the Spiritual Problem. In the first part, you will better understand how Attachment works, how your past affects your present, and what the essential parts are that need your focus in order to improve negative relationship patterns. You really can change what you may been experiencing all your life! You either have an Insecure or Secure Attachment. Insecure Attachers struggle with...

Season 9 Finale! Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-Avoidant I'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it! See you in season 10 :) Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program! One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we're referring to romantic partners. Listen to her talk about the "DREAD" she felt in this relationship and how she learned a framework for letting...

We love a Q&A! I'm helping you with... Shifting from Anxious to Secure AttachmentHealing Love AddictionWhat to do with someone who switches up on youUnderstanding StonewallsReconnectingHow to deal with people who keep reminding you of your mistakesThank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes! You’re going to want your notepad out for this one. The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tier It’s also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on the regular… if you’re regularly getting better because of it! Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on: Putting yourself out thereBelieving what people tell youWhat kinds of questions to ask Potential MatchesWhat to do with the Submission wordDo "the butterflies" matter?Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her services out! Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Trust is on the GROUND FLOOR of healthy relationships! When the foundation is weak, everything else falls apart. Here's some insight into what to do about ONGOING  relationships that have experienced attachment wounds / broken trust. How to break from Denial and Clear ConfusionThe Hyper-independence to Co-dependence SpectrumThe importance of InterdependencePatreon - Live Q&A re: Emotional Safety on Sunday 3/26 at 6 PM EST Boundary Playbook Reattach Coaching Program  Thank you for your...

I worked with Alexandria 1-on-1 and in the Reattach Coaching Group. Then, she came to the Reattach Retreat in Atlanta - December 2022. Now, she is serving on the Reattach Team, helping others through the Reattach Program (IT'S BACK Y'ALL!) and planning the Reattach 2023 Retreat! This is what Healing sounds like :) Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Emotional Safety is a 3-part series recorded Live on Zoom, available for Reattachers on Patreon! You can join us - click here. -What is an Emotionally Safe person? -What happens when Attachment Wounds aren’t attended to? -Understand Insecure Attachment through the lens of crying babies -The link between the Past and Present -How you can start breaking Barriers to Vulnerability down The Video Replays are available on Patreon for 30 days, so if you join late, you can still get access to the...

The final part in the series! -The undercover reason you pair with under-developed people -The role of anxiety -What your parent has to do with it 2-Hour Live Workshop on Zoom - Sat. March 25 ($25)  Replay available for attendees Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Sometimes a Bridge doesn't need to be Demolished, it needs to be Re-Designed!    Women who thrive leading, planning, directing, and creating can have issues in the areas most important to building healthy intimate relationships.    This episode gives 10 points to focus on to help Design better relationships.    The High Achieving Women Workshop is 2 hours on March 25, 2023 from 10:30-11:30 AM   Replay will be available.    Info and Registration on site iamtaylorchandler.com Thank you for your...

Happy Women’s Month! The High Achieving Women coaching group is a 3-day group for women who want to: …increase satisfaction in personal relationships to complement your professional success …stop dating projects or assignments. Date date healthy. Reciprocal. And understand the types that works WELL for you. …manage the difference between your Norm and society’s norm …understand the role of anxiety & perfectionism in your life and how to relax these things without lowering your standards...

Healing Insecure Attachment can be messy, so I’m laying out the major keys you need to unlock the way forward. Breaking down “hard” skills of: identifying your attachment, managing triggers, expressing emotional needs, and setting boundaries Plus “soft” skills of: communicating with empathy, and the discipline of forgiveness and acceptance I released this episode on Wednesday rather than the normal Thursday because I have a Live Masterclass tonight! If you want to be there, purchase the...

Have you ever felt like there was something *different* about your attachment with someone? Deeper & more intense, perhaps more dramatic & risky. Hard to let go of but hard to be a part of at the same time?  Soul Tie: an intense emotional and spiritual bond, usually developed after physical intimacy. We’re going to talk about how Soul Ties develop and what you can do to prevent unhealthy connections like this going forward. Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo...

You can improve your dating & relationship experiences by improving your ability to manage red flags when they pop up! EVERYONE has “something,” including you and me. Rather than ejecting too early, let’s talk about managing conflict and misunderstandings better so you don’t accidentally throw away a good thing. In this episode... -Difference between Red Flags and Dealbreakers -How to Handle Red Flags When you Catch One -The effect of Denial and Misunderstandings -Common Red Flags Cuff...

The season is over but I will be continuing posting videos & doing Q&As on Patreon! Look forward to a Series of content, including breaking down popular television shows! This episode - Letting Go - takes the process of releasing the past to a high level that won’t just help you over a breakup, but.. if you pay attention.. will be a key for moving through the rest of your life with greater ease and grace. I hope to be able to help you on your journey in the Attachment Course starting...

Let me know in the Reviews how this season has served you (we're almost at the end) and tell me what you want to hear more of! Thanks for listening in and for your support :) Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

What is the Fearful-Avoidant? Why does the Fearful-Avoidant do what s/he does? How do you shift the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment Style? Attachment Style Workbook To watch and join-in live, plus additional audio & written content,  join us on Patreon! Thank you for your support and let me know how things are going for you in the Reviews :) Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

As you are putting more into your personal development, it can become painfully obvious when you come into contact with others who have not!  You also realize how valuable your resources are, like your time, attention, affection, and space, so you want to protect those things as best as possible.  Making great decisions and being willing to correct the wrong ones puts the power in your hands to create the experiences you want. I’m going to help you with S.I.F.T.  Take notes on these  4 Areas...

Live Q&A pt. 2. If you want to join the party, Live Q&As are on Patreon! Questions also submitted on Patreon Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Dr. Dawn is our resident trauma therapist and she and I are talking about the trauma of heartbreak! -How It affects you as an attachment wound (relational trauma) -Taking accountability for behavior in relationships -Hope for change -How to move forward Thanks for listening in! Find my guest here, Dr. Dawn here: @drdawnonthereal Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler