I see a clear rise in the number of women who say they are abstaining from physical intimacy. This can make dating difficult. I understand this personally! It makes it even MORE difficult when you’re not really being honest with yourself and/or others about WHY you’re abstaining. Here are some things to consider if you are dating while abstaining, and hopefully it is also helps men understand what questions to ask, where women are coming from in general, and how to navigate the conversation...

Most people dating seem to be WAY more concerned with what they’re getting rather than what they can give! Everyone is in relationships to fulfill some kind of personal goal but it becomes selfish and toxic when you lose sight of how you can support and nourish the one you’re with. Today we’re talking about GIVING and RECIPROCATION. I’m highlighting 5 ways YOU can reciprocate in a relationship so you can check how well you’re doing with things you can directly control...

Manipulation Tactics - How to Spot Them and What to Do About It What is DARVO? DENY ATTACK REVERSE Effects of DARVO Resist DARVO References:  https://www.choosingtherapy.com/darvo/ https://bayareacbtcenter.com/reverse-darvo-for-combating-gaslighting-and-emotional-abuse/#:~:text=What%20Is%20DARVO%3F,the%20blame%20onto%20their%20victims. Thank you for your support! 1-on-1: Interest Form Questions and Topic Requests: Submit Here $taychand PayPal Venmo Website:...

This episode is a conglomerate of a few topics! -There’s a difference between wanting a relationship and being Ready for a relationship. Your emotional availability makes all the difference. -Many women can function well on their own, but still don’t have the relationship they really want. Let’s talk about some of the things that need to change in order to set yourself up for the man you’re looking for. -Men can be giving out way too much of themselves to others in an effort to be helpful and...

When you become aware of how your childhood has impacted your adulthood, angry feelings arise towards your parents. You realize your anxiety or your avoidance is directly related to how you have experienced your mother and father. It’s common to have conflicted feelings. You may struggle with loving them and resenting them. Having empathy for their experiences and feeling the pain of how their experiences have negatively affected the way they related to you. Or you may be less conflicted and...

We experience frustration and pain when the position someone has in our life does not match our experience of them. For example - You can have a mother who you do not experience as mothering. A father who does not treat you like a son or daughter. A spouse who treats you like a stranger. _ One of the goals of this video is to help you make a distinction between Role and Relationship so that you are better able to locate where your negative emotions are likely coming from. I will also give you...

Q&A from Dec 2023 about dating and relationship topics: Including - Serious Dating What does it meant to be “Exclusive” Passport bros How to soften your communication “What do you bring to the table?” Toxic friends Effort in dating Defensiveness Vetting Why people lie Relationship goals Casual physical intimacy *Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! $taychand PayPal Venmo Website:...

Attachment Wounds are the experiences that serve as catalysts for Insecure Attachment. I’m going to define specific Attachment Wounds, describe the effect of those wounds, and point you in the direction you need to go in to heal these wounds. If you don't, these wounds bleed out into your present relationships (whether platonic or romantic, but especially romantic) and negatively effect your chances of having a healthy, happy connection. KEY WORDS: emotional intelligence, emotional...

Your Attachment Style begins developing at a young age and is able to be defined by age 5! In this video I’m going to go over 4 big areas of Attachment Development 1. Attachment Bases 2. Concepts of Self and Other 3. Programming 4. Intervention 01:06 Overview 06:23 Self-Concept 8:56 Other-Concept / Exploration 12:54 Survival 18:29 Programming 22:05 Intervention Let’s work together (1-on-1): https://mkd8uhsug6i.typeform.com/to/teluZNqP Thank you for your support! $taychand PayPal Venmo...

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Tiana is basically an Attachment Expert at this point! She’s done all the workshops and the Reattach Coaching Program. She has a lot of insight and wisdom for you about situationships, self-esteem, and overall guidance about what you can expect on your journey of self-improvement and healing. I’m grateful for her time and I know you’re going to get a lot of out of this conversation! Thank you for your support! $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram:...

If curses and blessings are real, someone has to be doing the cursing and blessing, and that One must be God. So we need to know what God says about blessings and curses! What’s the responsibility of your ancestors’ for negative experiences you’re having now?  What’s your role?  And what do you do now? This is the intersection of the practical and the spiritual. 1-on-1 Interest Form: Click Here Thank you for your support! $taychand PayPal Venmo Website:...

When we are hurt, we may struggle to let go of the pain and we may struggle to trust again. In this episode, I'm going to talk about the impact of unforgiveness, the need for grace, and 3 ways to open yourself back up for healthy relationships. Thank you for your support! $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads: @iamtaylorchandler

Rafer is a husband, father, and pastor in New Mexico who struggled with Anger and Anxiety - until he did his Work! Listen in as he shares about his desire to live like Jesus, coming to terms with the fact he was not, and doing the necessary steps to change. Reattach Fast Track Beginning August 28th 1-on-1 Interest Thank you for your support! $taychand PayPal Venmo Website: https://www.iamtaylorchandler.com/ Instagram: @iamtaylorchandler YouTube: @iamtaylorchandler Threads:...

We've heard mindset is everything. Limiting Beliefs have been a popular (mainstream) way of expanding a restricted mind. But when you have a spiritual issue, you can affirm and challenge your thinking all you want and still not see the progress you should see. Strongholds are the spiritual parallels to Limiting Beliefs, but not quite equal. Strongholds are stronger and tricker to detect, in large part because mainstream culture doesn't even talk about it. Secondarily, many don't know how to...

A very common pattern in romantic relationships: one person is constantly trying to move the relationship in a particular direction and the other is sitting back, much less involved, engaged or active. One person feels they’re the only one that really cares and the other feels helpless and powerless to really make any change. There are 3 ways of looking at this dynamic -  1. Anxious / Avoidant  2. Codependent 3. Ahab / Jezebel We’ve talked a lot about the Anxious-Avoidant pair over the last 9...

What if the Self-Love movement is one big deception? What if the promises are empty and the consequences are eternal? Feeling good about yourself and thinking positively about yourself is great. But the best lies always have a little bit of truth in them. The best lies go right outside the bounds of the truth, expanding into territory that is not “real” and not “true.”  Whenever you’re working in “unreal territory,” your efforts are fruitless. It’s like chasing the gold at the end of the...

The Psychology world isn't telling you everything you need to know about the issues you're facing. I actually believe they leave out the most important part. The spiritual issues behind things like childhood trauma and the manifestations in adult life. The spiritual problem behind failed relationships and inability to maintain intimate connections. In this episode we're going deeper into what comes through those "open doors" we talked about in Episode 1 of this season and how to know if you...

It's a new season! Welcome to Season 10 This episode is broken up into two parts, the Standard Problem and the Spiritual Problem. In the first part, you will better understand how Attachment works, how your past affects your present, and what the essential parts are that need your focus in order to improve negative relationship patterns. You really can change what you may been experiencing all your life! You either have an Insecure or Secure Attachment. Insecure Attachers struggle with...

Season 9 Finale! Let's go into the reality of this all-too-common and always-stressful paring: the Anxious-Preoccupied and the Dismissive-Avoidant I'll define the terms, break down what most people THINK this pairing is and what it ACTUALLY is, and I'll share what I think you should do about it! See you in season 10 :) Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

Ashley completed 1-on-1s and the Reattach Coaching Program! One of the many things I love about Ashley and this episode is that her trigger into healing her codependency occurred with a platonic friend. Many others (including me!) have experienced this with friends and it's awesome to hear someone talking openly about it, since most of the time we're referring to romantic partners. Listen to her talk about the "DREAD" she felt in this relationship and how she learned a framework for letting...

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10 ways to show up as more Emotionally Safe for Better Outcomes! You’re going to want your notepad out for this one. The unedited version of this podcast is double the time and had me cracking up, so if you want to join us for Live Recordings, join us on Patreon! $5 / month tier It’s also a great way to give back to the podcast on the low and on the regular… if you’re regularly getting better because of it! Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler

My favorite dating coach has finally graced the podcast! Alison - @alignwithalison - is giving you her best tips on: Putting yourself out thereBelieving what people tell youWhat kinds of questions to ask Potential MatchesWhat to do with the Submission wordDo "the butterflies" matter?Follow her on IG here: @alignwithalison and check her services out! Thank you for your support! Patreon $taychand PayPal Venmo @iamtaylorchandler