We're meant to do life with other people. So then, why is dating so damn hard? Yue's sharing why dating feels so difficult these days – and how we can start to shift our mindset to think about things differently. Because being with another human you love is natural, yet dating is not. And it's about time we change how we approach it altogether. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also listen to our other podcast Exit...

There's so much pressure when dating....so much that dating becomes more about measuring up than actually finding the right partner. We're diving into one of the biggest things that got in our way – and that we see stifle so many of you too – when we let dating define our worth and make it a lot more personal than it actually is. We're discussing the mindset of being the chooser vs. being chosen, how our ego can overtake love, and ways to make the shift from needing someone to wanting to be...

So you told a couple of white lies. Or the person you're dating did. Is this ground for the budding relationship to be over? In this week's brunchtalk, we're discussing what happens when white lies accumulate and lead to trust issues – and what you can do about it. We're discussing looking beyond the lie to why it's being told, how to learn from past mistakes to move forward, and why it's important to reflect on the impact of our words. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at...

Curious about how to read people better and understand their behavior when dating? Want to build deeper connections with more trust and EQ? We have a very interesting convo this week with espionage expert, Jeremy Hurewitz who shares how his work with real-life spies relates to dating, building relationships and understanding each other. We're diving into it all from understanding verbal and non-verbal cues, why emotional intelligence is an absolute necessity when dating, and ways to build...

So you met someone awesome...but...they aren't ready to define the relationship or stop seeing other people. Do you wait? Date other people? Hold back sex or other intimacy? We're diving into how to handle one of the biggest challenges in dating – when one person is ready to have a relationship and the other isn't quite there We're discussing why it's essential take what people say at face value when dating, how to move forward with clarity and purpose, and ways to prioritize your needs so...

We don't know about you, but we could use a big ol' break from all the politics. So it's the perfect timing to introduce the concept of compersion (i.e our wholehearted participation in the happiness of others) as we chat with Dr. Marie Thouin, an expert in the topic. We're discussing how compersion can operate in both monogamous and non-monogamous relationships, why jealousy and possessiveness don't have to be the conditioned response, and ways you can invite more joy into your dating life....

You're with someone...but they aren't quite making you a priority and giving you the attention you desire Should you cut out or is there a way to get more? In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing what it means when you feel like you're getting crumbs instead of the whole damn pie –whether you've defined the relationship or not. We're discussing how to make specific asks to ensure your needs are met, why you can use this info to ultimately evaluate your compatibility, and ways to...

We're so afraid of settling yet we settle for....situationships? We're chatting today about the difference of being picky and having standards – from the characteristics of the person we're dating to how they treat us. We're discussing where the fear of settling is rooted from, how our dating culture impacts our expectations (both in a good and bad way!) and why it is possible to find that one in a million partner without sacrificing yourself and needs in the process. Follow us...

They're texting every day, replying quickly, and making plans...everything's running smoothly until one day it just stops. In this week's #brunchtalk, we're discussing one of the most common dating dilemmas: inconsistency. We're discussing the reasons behind this behavior, why we have to communicate our needs and expectations effectively, and how to establish standards that help you find the right person. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow...

What if there were benefits of underthinking in dating and relationships? Yup, you heard us right. Julie's sharing a low light from her trip to Italy and how the anxiety and overthinking started to creep in related to her relationship. And also how overthinking has caused issues in the past and why thinking a little less can actually be of greater service to us all. Don't worry, we're never advocating for not thinking dating and relationships through; but more about how we don't get in our...

Could your subconscious actually be the missing ingredient for your love life? We're diving into everything from lucid dreaming to dream interpretation as talk with expert Charlie Morley about how we can use our dreams for insight and discovery into our love lives. We're discussing how much introspection can happen in our subconscious state, the best ways to start understanding your dreams, and how to use this information to understand your desires, fears, and anxieties holding you back. To...

When you have a not so cordial breakup and you start seeing different sides of the person you dated...is this their true self coming through or just a response to the pain they're going through? And have you ever experienced a side of yourself that you didn't recognize? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing why breakups reveal underlying issues that were previously hidden, how breakups serve for personal growth, and the deeper meaning behind some of the actions that may happen...

With marriage rates on the decline....do people still want to get married? And why does it still hold the significance it does? We're joined by Allison Raskin, who just published a book digging all the complexities of modern day marriage, inspired from her experience overcoming a broken engagement to tying to knot with her now-husband. We're chatting about the societal expectations and importance of marriage today, how to make the leap of faith a little less scary, and what to do when you and...

Dating should be fun! But it also should be intentional....especially if you're looking for a life partner. With all these conflicting messages, it's hard to know the expectation of a first date anymore....especially when you reach your 30s and people are looking for something more serious. We're breaking down the difference between self-imposed pressure and the organic evolution when dating, how to balance fun and deep conversations, and ways to make your intentions more known to be seen as...

We tend to be so focused on commonalities when dating...but what if that wasn't actually what mattered in finding a compatible partner? Yue's breaking down why focusing so much on shared interests can lead to a false sense of connection and what's more important to look out for. Also she's sharing her newfound love of quickies – from this type of episode to you know, the real deal. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and @nonplatonic. Check out our website for more content. Also...

Why do we expect everything to happen so damn fast when dating? From the need to feel that instant chemistry to freaking out if someone doesn't text back within 20 minutes, this need for speed is one of the biggest traps holding us back. We're discussing the reasons this mentality sets us up for failure, how to reduce the need to fast-track to the end, and why slowing down a bit can actually make the whole dating process a heck more enjoyable. Follow us @dateablepodcast, @juliekrafchick and...

Anyone else seen this phenomenon where people on dating apps are checking that they're looking for something fun/casual and also serious/long term? So which one is it? Or does it need to be an either or? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to have conversations to clarify someone's intentions, how to not get so hung up on reading between the lines on someone's profile, and ways you can better understand someone's desires and motivations. Got a dating question you need...

We're not talking about what to wear or how to look, but rather how to elude that contagious energy that just attracts someone to you. And what better expert than Mat Boggs, who shares his own turning point and all the knowledge he's gained in his 20+ years of dating coaching. We're discussing the turn offs and turn ons that either kill attraction or spark it, how to understand what type of vibe you're sending on a date, and ways you can build attraction not just in the early stages – but for...

Sure you want someone interested but can they be too interested? Or has anyone every told you that you come off too eager? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the perception of interest in dating, how to move forward if someone shares this type of feedback with you, and ways that you can evaluate your own approach to dating based on how you evaluate interest levels. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us up at [email protected] Follow us @dateablepodcast,...

What's better than coming across letters you wrote to your ex(s) years later? Julie's diving into how this practice has helped her process the past so she can move forward. No, you don't need to send the actual letter (in fact, it's recommended you do not). And yes, this absolutely will give you the closure and clarity you need. And one day, you'll be able to see how far you've come and how none of this was time wasted. If you're looking for a dose of optimism and tactical tips, tune in for...

If dating like a feminist means embracing your desires while also valuing independence and equality....then sign us up! Whether you identify as a woman or not, this is a must-listen discussion with the incredible Lily Womble about breaking dumb dating rules and shifting the current societal expectations filled with shame and pressure. We're discussing all the ways the patriarchy has messed with our love lives for both women AND men, why you should actually be MORE picky, and how to create...

What happens when someone wants to date you (or even be in a relationship!) yet there's something going in their personal lives that's preventing you from being together? In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing how to navigate this tricky situation, when it's more of an external factor keeping your relationship from progressing. We discuss the pros/cons of waiting for someone to get their sh*t together, how to reframe the situation to focus on your prioritizing your own needs,...

With the feeling that dating is harder than ever before and people outright giving up on love, we believe we're in a love crisis. But what does that even mean? And better yet, what do we do about it? Have no fear, as we're discussing the 5 most prominent – and some surprising– cultural shifts that got us to where we are today, why daters are feeling an increased sense of disillusionment around dating (nope, you're not alone!), and some actions you can take today to rise above the current...

If you feel like you've been falling into the friend zone, or looked as someone more 'casual' yet you want something real, we're breaking down why people may not be taking you as seriously when dating. In this week's #brunchtalk episode, we're discussing the impressions formed quickly when dating, ways to take stock of the vibe you may be putting off, and how to show a more 360 picture of your personality, story, and what you're looking for. Got a dating question you need answered? Hit us...