A master class in spiritual bypassing
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“I got into TBM a few years back after a friend recommended an episode of the podcast called "Explained" that featured cohost Jessica and guest Dr Tara Swart. From there I started to follow the pod and eventually became a pathway member and did the work actively for a few months. I ended up getting so turned off by Lacy and her materialism/consumerism that I had to stop listening to the pod in order to be able to do the TBM work. And then I eventually quit that as well.
The first thing I would say to anyone curious about the efficacy of her method is that it manifestly did not work for her, Jessica or Tara. They are all failed actors. That was their dream and none of them were able to manifest their dream job. Instead they now make a living from pointing others in the direction of a power that they, themselves, couldn't harness.
Lacy’s method is solid, if unoriginal. It’s a remix of important concepts that you can find elsewhere, and she is very effective at making them digestible (and of trademarking them and reminding you at every step that her product is New And Improved). But the insatiable consumerism of this show and many of the things Lacy and her co-hosts reveal about their values in this show are disappointing.
I like the emphasis on self worth. Self worth is absolutely what matters - when you expect more, you often get it. However, bingeing Lacy in conversation started to make it clear to me that her own method hasn’t healed her. Her scarcity mindset is apparent in everything from her love of precious metals (which literally derive their worth from scarcity), to her (charmingly frank) descriptions of her partnership with her fiance, to her relentless branding, trademarking and self aggrandizement. Her core values include such ego- and fear-driven qualities as luxury (seeing your wealth at all times so you can be comforted, including wearing reminders of your wealth on your body in the form of jewelry… what happened to trusting?) and being notable (why not just be good at something?).
Lacy also happens to be stunningly beautiful, which is an important context to view her stories within. Many of Lacy’s anecdotes about manifestation involve ex-boyfriends (“I wanted a cool apartment and then low and behold I had a ping to call that guy I broke up with and he set me up with his place…”) Beautiful people can have low self-worth, too, and it seems that’s something she’s been fixing for herself. She has learned to step up and demand her inheritance as a gorgeous woman in a looks-obsessed world. But let’s be honest. When you look like Lacy, you simply have more money to spend in the mall of life. Maybe it took her a while to realize it but now she is certainly negotiating for herself at a higher rate. Good for her. Still, not everybody looks like a J Crew model.
There are spiritual and scientific truths here if you look for them but mostly TBM is selling mystical consumerism. Lacy’s teachings turn life into a type of shopping. This is the very essence of spiritual bypassing: self-work which is designed to give us a quick hit rather than what we need, and to separate us from humanity rather than showing us how to trust into connection.
Consumerism is about getting a jolt of stimulation, which distracts us from what our higher self is trying to tell us. Lacy’s idea of using a shopping list as a carrot to persuade ourselves to heal is an intriguing one. If only it worked. Judging by the evidence Lacy provides candidly, shopping our way to healing just leaves us with a longer and longer list of wants but no real “trust muscles.””Read full review »
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