How to Talk to a Teen [Show open] Mariel Gutierrez: Hi everyone. You're listening to the Faith and Family Podcast. A Christian family community that aims to promote Christian values for every phase of your family's life. I’m Mariel Gutierrez. This week, I actually have my own daughter with us as we explore how to communicate effectively and why open communication is important, especially as she's growing up and developing into her own person. Mariel: Oh, my goodness. Hi, Mattea. Mattea Gutierrez: Hi, Mom.  Mariel: So Miss Mattea is turning 16 this year. She's going to be a junior in high school. Wow, I can't believe it. And how else would you describe yourself, Mattea? Like, what are you into these days? Mattea: I'm very into immersing myself in media that I can find on the internet. I really like to read and stuff like that. I'm always at the library of my school, which is really nice. I like to just listen to music, play on bass and guitar. Super, super chill. Mariel: So how would you describe our relationship, Mattea? Mattea: We're super, super besties. Yeah, I don't think there's any other way to say it. Of course, we are a mother and daughter, but I think just we're able to talk about a lot of things and I'm able to talk about the most things with you, of course, because I've known you since I was not born yet. And even since then, it's like you knew I loved to dance to Donna Summer when you were pregnant with me. So and then we've had that awesome connection. We know each other very well. Mariel: That is very true. And we still listen to seventies music and dance around and sing around. In the car, especially when we're driving. Besties indeed. I think that's how I describe us also. But I mean, I think we have balance like bestie/parent balance. Not quite… Mattea: …like besties only, no limits. Like, we definitely have those moments where it's like we're going to be honest with each other. And then we're just going to, you know, talk about life and help each other out and stuff. Mariel: Do you, do you ever get startled when I have to turn mom on? Like, Mom mode? Mattea: It depends on the situation. If I'm aware of the thing that I have to be kind of reminded of. Yeah. I'm like, yeah, you're right. You're right. And of course, I'm going to listen to you because if my mom saying it, then she's right. She knows everything because, you know, mom senses. But for sure, it's helped us, even though it startles me, sometimes it does help us become even more besties, getting to know that stuff. Parent and teenager communication Mariel: That's true. And I mean it's kind of proof that I would never lie to you, right? OK, well, we're here to talk about effective parent and teenager communication. Is that you? Based on parenting websites, you and your child are communicating effectively when—OK, here's the list Mattea. OK? So you and your child are communicating effectively when (let's see if we hit these marks): you both feel able to talk freely about your feelings and you feel heard and understood. Do we want to comment on that? What do you think? Do you feel free to talk about your feelings? Mattea: Yes. Besties.