The narcissistic mother and daughter relationship. To a narcissistic mother, their daughter represents a threat to their grandiose view of themselves. The daughter of a narcissistic mother spends their whole life trying to please a toxic parent, who can't or won't love them unconditionally. They hang in there however, thinking one day, ONE DAY, their mother will change. They feel a sense of duty and obligation to keep trying to love a toxic parent who will never ...