4 Ways Covert Narcissists Destroy Your HappinessIn this eye-opening episode I take you on a deep dive into the subtle yet devastating tactics covert narcissists use to chip away at your happiness. While their methods may seem less obvious than those of the overt narcissist, covert narcissists are just as destructive. They operate behind a mask of humility, kindness, or even victimhood, all while strategically eroding any joy in your life. I explore four key ways covert narcissists manipu...

5 Ways to Shut Narcissists Down!Tired of constantly being pulled into arguments and mind games with a narcissist? In this must-listen episode I unpack five ways to shut down a narcissist and protect your peace.I explore the psychology behind the narcissist’s need for validation and why your refusal to play their game is the ultimate win.It’s time to stop falling into the traps of justifying, arguing, defending, and explaining (aka JADE-ing) yourself to someone who thrives on control and...

Beating Narcissists in Court- The Golden Rules!- with my daughter, Courtney Barton.If you're facing a narcissist in your life, whether it's during a breakup, divorce, custody battle, or even in a work-related dispute, one thing is clear—you need a lawyer. Narcissists are experts at manipulation, twisting the truth, and using the legal system as a weapon to control or punish you. In this episode, Courtne explains why getting legal support is not just a good idea but a necessary ste...

Understanding Narcissistic Future Faking In the beginning, the narcissist will sweep you away by painting a dazzling picture of your future together—talks of marriage, kids, dream holidays, or maybe that forever home. But then, as time goes on, none of it ever materialises. That’s future faking, a manipulative tactic narcissists use to hook you emotionally while avoiding any real commitment.In this episode, I explain how future faking works and why it’s such a powerful tool i...

15 signs of Narcissistic Victim Syndrome In this episode, I dive deep into the lesser-talked-about but incredibly important topic of NVS - Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. If you’ve ever felt like you’re walking on eggshells, questioning your own reality, or stuck in a cycle of self-blame and shame after dealing with a narcissist, this episode is for you.I unpack 15 key signs that indicate you might be experiencing Narcissistic Victim Syndrome. From chronic self-doubt and emotional exhausti...

5 Things Narcissists Fear the Most!In this episode I pull back the curtain on the hidden fears that narcissists don’t want you to know about. Despite their outward confidence and need for control, narcissists are often deeply afraid of specific things that threaten their carefully crafted personas. I discuss why "exposure" terrifies the narcissist. I also explore their intense fear of "being alone." Don’t miss this episode—it could change how you understand the narcissist in your l...

How Do You Know If It's Narcissistic Abuse?In this episode I dive deep into one of the most challenging questions facing victims and survivors of emotional abuse: "How do you know if it’s narcissistic abuse?" Recognising narcissistic abuse can be confusing, especially when manipulative behaviours are masked by charm, seemingly innocent comments, or even grand gestures. Many survivors find themselves questioning their own reality, blaming themselves, or wondering if they’re simply "too sensiti...

6 Physical Symptoms of Narcissistic Abuse that destroy your Health. In this episode, I'm discussing 6 physical symptoms of narcissistic abuse and how these can truly harm your health. Narcissistic abuse doesn’t just affect your mental state; it can actually lead to serious physical ailments. From constant fatigue to digestive issues, this type of abuse manifests in ways that are often overlooked, leaving victims feeling worn out, both mentally and physically.We’ll explore each of these s...

No Contact with a Narcissist means cutting ties with their Family too. "No contact" with a narcissist includes distancing yourself from their family and friends as well. Cutting ties with a narcissistic partner, parent or friend is difficult enough, but then you have to think of those shared connections—their family members, mutual friends, and even those who may act as "flying monkeys" to gather information or sway your decisions. In this episode i unpack why it’s essential to set ...

Scapegoat Child vs Golden Child: How These Toxic Family Roles Impact Adulthood.In this episode I dive deep into the family roles of the scapegoat child and the golden child—two powerful, often toxic dynamics that can shape a person’s life well into adulthood. If you grew up feeling like the "black sheep" of the family, constantly blamed or criticised, or if you were always the “favoured” one, given praise and special treatment, you may have lived these roles. I look at how these dynamics affe...

I left my husband for a narcissist - this is why.In this episode, we dive into the complex story of leaving a relationship after being swept off your feet and seduced by someone who knew exactly how to exploit you. We explore how the predatory narcissist can appear as a saviour when you're vulnerable, you’re at a low point, using charm, attentiveness, and validation to pull you in. Yet behind this facade lies manipulation, gaslighting, and control. Join us as we unpack this journey, from the ...

Does the Narcissist ever Miss You? Do you ever find yourself thinking, “Do they miss me?” even after all the hurt they’ve caused? It’s a question so many survivors of narcissistic abuse struggle with — and it can feel impossible to shake. In this episode, I'm diving into why you might still be thinking about them and what’s really behind that nagging question, “Do they miss me?”I’ll break down why it’s so common to have these lingering thoughts, especially after dealing with a narcissist...

How do you Survive a Narcissistic Relationship?In this episode, we're unpacking some of the most complex coping mechanisms people develop when they’re stuck in a narcissistic relationship: rationalising the abuser’s behaviour, blaming themselves, and defending the narcissist. Coping mechanisms like minimizing and denial often develop as a way to survive the constant chaos. These survival techniques are incredibly common but often misunderstood, leaving many people feeling confused, stuck...

10 things Narcissists say and their true meaning. In this episode, "10 Things Narcissists Say vs What They Really Mean," we dive into the confusing, manipulative language narcissists often use to control and distort reality. Narcissists have a way of twisting words to make you doubt yourself, and in this episode, we break down those common phrases they use and reveal the hidden intentions behind them.You’ve likely heard things like, “You’re too sensitive,” or “I never said that,” but wha...

Narcissists Drive Recklessly to terrorise you!In this episode, I shed light on a terrifying but often overlooked tactic that narcissists use to dominate and terrorise their victims: Reckless driving. Have you ever found yourself in the passenger seat with someone driving aggressively, not for fun but to make you feel scared or helpless? This is no accident—it’s a deliberate form of control that narcissists use to assert dominance and make you feel powerless. I unpack this dangerous behaviour,...

The Rise of Narcissistic Abuse on Social Media: Why It's Everywhere.In this episode, I dive into why narcissistic abuse is all over social media and what’s behind its sudden rise. From viral videos to trending hashtags, discussions about narcissists are everywhere. But what’s driving this surge in awareness? Is it just a buzzword, or is there more to it? Join us as we break down why the topic of narcissistic abuse has gained so much traction online, what it means for survivors, and how social...

The Stalking Epidemic: How do we Protect Victims? With Chris Daw KCIn this episode, I speak with Chris Daw KC who provides incredible insights and discussion around stalking behaviours, the impact to victims and the resources needed to protect victims and address future stalking behaviour. Stalking is one of the most alarming and pervasive issues affecting countless lives today. Stalking is not just about unwanted attention; it’s a serious and sometimes life-threatening behavior that leaves v...

Why Does Narcissistic Abuse get worse each time you go back?In this episode, we dive into why narcissists become more abusive each time you go back. I explain how the cycle of love-bombing, gaslighting, and control escalates with every return. We’ll talk about why narcissists push boundaries even further, how emotional abuse intensifies, and why it becomes harder to break free. Narcissists thrive on control, and each time you come back, they feel like they’ve won—so they push the boundaries e...

10 ways the Narcissist gets you to react!In this episode, 10 Ways Narcissists Get You to React, we dive deep into the manipulative tactics narcissists use to push your buttons and get the emotional reaction they crave. From subtle guilt trips to full-blown gaslighting, we unpack the common strategies narcissists use to provoke you, whether in romantic relationships, friendships, or even at work. You'll learn how they set up situations to make you feel off-balance, question yourself, or lash o...

5 ways the Narcissist reacts when you reveal they hurt you.In this episode of Fake Love and Flying Monkeys, we dive deep into a question that so many victims of narcissistic abuse wrestle with: Should you tell the narcissist how they hurt you? While it might feel like confronting the narcissist could bring you closure, clarity, or even an apology, the reality is often far more damaging. Narcissists thrive on power, control and manipulation, and when you try to explain your feelings, they...

Is the Narcissist the same as a Cult Leader?In this episode we take a deep dive into the striking parallels between narcissists and cult leaders. Narcissists, much like cult leaders, create an environment where they exert extreme control, manipulating their victims into loyalty and compliance. We’ll explore how narcissists use charm, fear, and manipulation to isolate their targets, breaking down their sense of self-worth to gain complete control. We also discuss how narcissists slowly build a...

Family Court allows Abusers to Manipulate the System - Evelyn tells us how the Family Court failed her, and her child.In this episode, we sit down with Evelyn, who shares her heartbreaking experience of how the Family Court system allowed her abuser to manipulate the legal process. Evelyn opens up about the emotional and legal struggles she faced, the lack of support, and how her abuser used the court to continue their control, culminating in her losing custody of her child. If you're n...

When the Narcissist is Nice to You: Is it real?In this episode, we dive deep into why narcissists are nice to you—and it’s rarely out of genuine care. Narcissists often use selective kindness as a calculated tactic to keep you invested in the relationship, but these “nice” moments are usually just a way to manipulate and control. It’s important to remember that the percentage of nice times never compensates for the overwhelming bad times. In this episode, we break down how this inconsist...

10 Cruel Tactics Narcissists Use to Destroy You.In this episode, we dive into 10 cruel tactics narcissists use to destroy you and how these toxic behaviours can leave you feeling drained and powerless. From manipulation to smear campaigns, we'll break down the sneaky ways narcissists try to tear you apart. Whether you're dealing with a narcissist in a relationship, friendship, or family, this episode offers valuable insights into their damaging behaviours and how to protect yourself. Tune in ...