Narcissists Use Sex to Control YouNarcissists use sex as a powerful tool of coercive control to manipulate and dominate their victims. To the narcissist, sex isn’t about intimacy or mutual pleasure. It’s about validation and control. During the early stages of a relationship—known as the love bombing stage, a narcissist might use sex to make you feel like you're the most important person in the world, and once you're hooked on the "intimacy", they will then use sex to reward and punish ...