This episode is for fat folks who have partners who reassure them that their body is attractive but you just can't seem to believe them or feel it for yourself. Many, many fat folks have experienced this! What could your partner say (if anything) to make you truly believe them? What if your partner has made comments that have sent you ruminating about how they actually prefer thin people? How do we overcome this frustrating feeling? What’s it like for our partners who hear us yuk their yum? All that and more in this episode! Episode show notes: http://www.fiercefatty.com/153 Come with me to the Dominican Republic: https://trovatrip.com/trip/north-america/dominican-republic/dominican-republic-with-vinny-welsby-jun-2023 3 Reasons Dating, Attraction, and Desire Are Always Political by Hari Ziyad http://racebaitr.com/2015/12/03/whom-we-decide-to-lay-with-and-love-is-political-an-interview-no-fats-no-femmes-director-jamal-t-lewis/ https://www.researchgate.net/publication/279863184_Is_Sexual_Racism_Really_Racism_Distinguishing_Attitudes_Toward_Sexual_Racism_and_Generic_Racism_Among_Gay_and_Bisexual_Men Fatphobia is not a sexual preference from The Fat Sex Therapist: https://wearyourvoicemag.com/fatphobia-is-not-a-sexual-preference/ Treating My Friends Like Lovers: The Politics of Desirability from Caleb Luna: https://thebodyisnotanapology.com/magazine/how-to-be-fat-caleb-luna-sub/ 3 Reasons Dating, Attraction, and Desire Are Always Political by Hari Ziyad: https://everydayfeminism.com/2016/04/attraction-desire-political/ Fatphobia Exists – and It's Especially Bad in the Bedroom by Marie Southard Ospina: https://www.vice.com/en/article/8894bx/plus-size-girls-sex-stories-fatphobia