Betrayal hurts. But what if it was the medicine your heart needed to transform into the fullness and beauty of who you were meant to be? Today’s guest is the inspiring and creative Alana Fairchild, who will share her divine wisdom on healing the heart after the storm of betrayal. We’ll discuss how to come home to your true self, embrace your divine feminine, and discern between intuition and wishful thinking. Together, we’ll explore the importance of forgiveness, not as a means of condoning,...

Feeling stuck after infidelity or betrayal is common, but what does it mean to “move on?” Are you subconsciously “pushing away” love and healing or do you need more time or more tools to heal? In this episode, you will learn what it means to move on, how to move on, especially when you are stuck, and what to do when others (especially your cheating partner) are telling you that you should move on, even when you aren’t ready. Top Take-a-Ways: **Understanding Betrayal Blindness**: We will...

Do you feel broken after infidelity or betrayal? What if you aren’t “broken” and need to be fixed, but have been “broken open” for good, and called to evolve? Like a seed, your evolution begins by being broken open, and depending on your perspective and choices, you can either flourish and thrive, or wither and die. Learn the pivotal difference between being broken and being broken open, and how to gently nurture yourself, and strategically plant “seeds” for your future growth.   Top...

Do you ever get frustrated that your partner just won’t listen? If you are anything like me, you see your partner, and all of his flaws, pretty darned clearly. You’ve said (or at least thought) things like, “If he would just _____, then things would be so much easier!” And it’s true. If your partner would just take responsibility for their actions, atone for their mistakes, admit what they did, show you their phone, cut it off with the other woman, get on the same page as you, value the same...

Whether it’s taking you and the kids off of your soon-to-be-ex-husband’s cell phone plan, protecting yourself from a psychotic affair partner who is lashing out on social media, or trying to get out of a lease that you signed in haste when you found out about the affair, legal questions, and legal remedies are all around and more available to us than we might imagine. In this episode, consumer protection attorney Danny Karon shares his tips and wisdom on how to navigate just about any legal...

In this episode, Lora answers six questions from her Facebook group, Affair Recovery for Women – Flourish After Infidelity. If you’ve got a question that you’d like Lora to answer in her next show, reach out, join her Facebook community, and ask! Join the Facebook Community Here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/affairrecoveryforwomen/ Your Questions Answered: How do you “get over” the act that you will never be your husband’s “last, first,” or anything for that matter. How to stop bringing up...

How many times have you read books, taken classes, and taken steps to change yourself or your relationship, but couldn’t quite get that change to last? Using the transtheoretical model of change, here is what you need to know in order to make the changes you desire in yourself and your relationship. Roadmap for Successful & Lasting Change: Identify where you are at on the transformation journey: Pre-Contemplation: D-day just happened and you are struggling to come to terms with what...

Are you ready to wake up from the nightmare of infidelity and betrayal? Do you want to feel calm, confident, and sexy again? Then join me for a Free 5-Day Spring Awakening Workshop, April 8-12, 12-12:30 MST via Zoom. Replays available. Sign up at www.SparkleAllSeason.com   Top take-a-ways: Plant the seeds for what you want to harvest in the next chapter of your life Find and experience calm and confidence during the betrayal recovery journey Falling in love with yourself and feeling sexy and...

Comparing yourself to the other woman, while normal and healthy in ways, can also become obsessive. Instead of being led down a path of hate, revenge, and bitterness, here’s how to understand what you are doing, why you are doing it, and learn to make a healthy, more accurate comparison between you and your level of integrity and self-respect and her, and her level of integrity and self-respect. Top take-a-ways: How comparing yourself to the other woman can give you a sense of power, control,...

Post-betrayal transformation is NOT what you think it is! The other day I was driving to a venue I had never been to before. From the middle of a random parking lot, with no building in site, Google Maps announced, “you have arrived” to which I responded in frustration, “No, actually I have not!” Although I eventually found my way to the proper venue, it made me think about the glorious moments of transformation we often seek but rarely find and how, when we do arrive, it’s not always as...

Defensiveness & Blame – Two Toxic Behaviors that Prevent Healing Defensiveness and blame are two toxic behaviors that both the betraying partner and the betrayed partner can easily slip into. This show, which is geared for both the betrayed partner and the betrayed, will help you both understand what’s at the root of these behaviors and most importantly, how to stop so you can move towards understanding and healing. Top take-a-ways: Denial, diminishment, and gaslighting are three ways...

This show is for the betraying partner who wants to understand themselves, figure out what led to the affair, and support their partner in healing so they can forgive and heal both themselves and the marriage. Want a copy of Shawn's guide to affair recovery for the Betraying Partner? Email [email protected] and it will be sent to you! Lora’s husband courageously shares his perspective on affair recovery and some of the things he did to understand his unacknowledged and unexpressed...

While there are many great books or trainings on couple’s communication, one of the most empowering things you can learn how to do as the betrayed partner is learn how to communicate clearly and advocate on your own behalf. This is especially true for women who are often told to “keep it down, be nice,” or “keep the peace.” Top take-a-ways: Gaining clarity on the purpose of your communication, what you hope to accomplish, and what you want to know. Slowing down, tracking your answers, and...

Self-love is not just self-care. Self-love is the ability to be comfortable with yourself and to develop the habit of asking yourself what you need and fulfilling your needs consistently. While you might believe that self-love is optional, or something that you will develop one day when, unless you love yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to love you. Nobody can love you any more than you love yourself. Todays’ episode covers the topics of loving yourself versus loving others, conditional...

Understanding Trauma – What it is & Why it Matters Everybody seems to be talking about trauma and triggers, but what does “being traumatized” or “experiencing a trigger” really mean? Having a bad day, feeling upset or uncomfortable is not trauma. Experiencing something that renders you unable to function the way you previously functioned is. Trauma is not linear or logical and is stored in the body and brain subconsciously as well as consciously. Working with a coach, counselor,...

If your partner cheats, the assumption is you’ll leave. Others trying to support you will often say things like “take him for all he’s worth!” or “make him pay!” Perhaps in the past you’ve even claimed that “if he ever cheats, I’m outta here!” The decision seems so clear – until you’ve been cheated on. In reality, there’s more drama, emotion, and pain to contend with than you ever anticipated, and leaving is not always the right option. Or if it is, now may not be the right time. Here’s what...

Betrayal, as painful as it is, can serve as a profound revelation about oneself. Betrayal not only exposes the truth about the person who betrayed us but also unveils deep-seated wounds within us. While betrayal hurts, it doesn’t damage our core self. When we delve into the idea that external actions, no matter how hurtful, cannot change the essence of who we are, we heal. For real. Taking responsibility and control over one’s life means moving beyond blaming others and focusing on that which...

Healing from betrayal does not have to be hard. When you are clear about what being on the other side of betrayal looks like, it’s easier to get yourself there – to figure out which steps you need to take and what kind of help you need. This is the story of my recovery journey, what I did, what made that journey easier and quicker, and what you can do to mend your broken heart, shattered soul, and reclaim yourself. Top take-a-ways The power of a clear decision and how deciding what you want,...

Let’s break down the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater. How do you know when is it true and when is it not true? What are the signs that your partner will or will not cheat again? Is there anything you can do to prevent your partner from cheating again? Can people really change? What if they don’t want to change? How would it feel for you to be labeled as the worst thing you had ever done? Let’s talk about all of this and more so you can be the best, healthiest version of yourself even...

Let’s talk about anger after infidelity and betrayal. How much is too much? When are you wallowing in anger and when are you justifiably angry? What does it mean when you “bash your partner?” Is it possible to be both positive and forward leaning while also being angry? What about the whole concept of “female anger?” What if you don’t know how to be angry because you spent your whole life being a good girl who kept the peace, smiled, and made nice? Sit down, grab a cup of tea and let’s talk...

Dreaming big is great, but it doesn’t work. When you dream too big, you pinch off what’s available and accessible for you in the moment. It cuts you off from healing, from identifying what’s blocking you right now, and it makes you feel discouraged and incapable. Instead, Learn the three keys to successful manifestation, whether you are manifesting the ability to get through the day without crying or a beautiful new life and relationship Top take-a-ways Step One: Focus on What you Want. This...

Sure, self- care is a great way to recover after infidelity or betrayal, but to be your best, to feel good, live fully, and have the energy to connect or take care of others, you must take care of yourself first! Here are ideas on how to do that. Top take-a-ways Developing the habit of self-care, feeling good, and asking yourself what you want. Investing in yourself as a way to stay accountable to your own growth and development. Tips on sleep, nutrition, vitamins, and wellness for you to...

Are you worried about navigating the holiday season after infidelity or betrayal? These six tips will help you navigate the season with ease, so you can find some joy, connection, and grace despite the stress of changing or uncertain times. BONUS! Metaphysical interpretation of the Christmas story and the Virgin Mary and what you can learn about birthing a blessing from a burden. Top take-a-ways Prepare for conversations ahead of time: Having a list of memorized soundbites will help you...

While most everyone says they want inner peace, very few know how to achieve it. Learning how to develop the skills and habits necessary to find and reclaim inner peace is essential. Especially during this time of year and this painful season of life. In this episode Lora will walk you through the prerequisites necessary to finding peace and will give you practical strategies, daily practices, and filter questions that you can use to be OK on the inside no matter what’s going on around...

What do you tell your kids about infidelity? What if the affair partner is going to be involved in your children’s life? How do you explain your emotions to your child? How do you pull it together enough to parent when your heart is broken and your life is falling apart? Dr. Lynyetta Willis, a psychologist with a background in trauma and infidelity, is here to help you be the best parent you can throughout your infidelity journey. Top take-a-ways Three factors to consider in explaining...