In this candid episode, Lora will share her personal story of discovering her husband's 15-years of cheating and the transformative journey that followed. We will discuss the vital importance of confronting and understanding past trauma to heal and foster healthier relationships as well as how to reclaim one's identity and live authentically from a place of love, strength, and unconditional self-worth. Together, let's transform pain into power. ✨ Top Take-a-Ways: Understanding Trauma's...

amYcyqlEopeur8Qlpiaa While it can be worthwhile to see if your marriage can be saved, sometimes you are better off apart. While the road to dissolving your marriage can be long and challenging, it doesn’t have to be terrible. If you have felt shut down because you think your situation is unresolvable, this episode is for you. Today’s guest is Gabrielle Hartley, an attorney and mediator who specializes in resolving unresolvable situations. She will share actionable tips to help you...

Whether you’ve already divorced, are just beginning the process, or have no idea what you want to do, this show will give you the lowdown on all things divorce, and how to divorce with ease, grace, and even joy. With topics ranging from handling anger and fostering forgiveness to navigating the dating world as a fresh start, Jackie Pilossoph, founder of Divorced Girl Smiling shares her wealth of knowledge and personal experiences to help you find joy, positivity, and growth during...

Intrusive thoughts are the number one complaint of those facing infidelity and betrayal. Here’s how to prevent intrusive thoughts, manage them in the moment, and prevent them long-term. If you want to learn what your obsessive thoughts are trying to tell you, and reclaim your sanity and peace after betrayal, then listen up, this is the show for you. Top Take-a-Ways: Identifying what intrusive thoughts are, why they happen, and preventing them before they begin. Strategies to prevent intrusive...

Betrayal hurts. But what if it was the medicine your heart needed to transform into the fullness and beauty of who you were meant to be? Today’s guest is the inspiring and creative Alana Fairchild, who will share her divine wisdom on healing the heart after the storm of betrayal. We’ll discuss how to come home to your true self, embrace your divine feminine, and discern between intuition and wishful thinking. Together, we’ll explore the importance of forgiveness, not as a means of condoning,...

Feeling stuck after infidelity or betrayal is common, but what does it mean to “move on?” Are you subconsciously “pushing away” love and healing or do you need more time or more tools to heal? In this episode, you will learn what it means to move on, how to move on, especially when you are stuck, and what to do when others (especially your cheating partner) are telling you that you should move on, even when you aren’t ready. Top Take-a-Ways: **Understanding Betrayal Blindness**: We will...

Do you feel broken after infidelity or betrayal? What if you aren’t “broken” and need to be fixed, but have been “broken open” for good, and called to evolve? Like a seed, your evolution begins by being broken open, and depending on your perspective and choices, you can either flourish and thrive, or wither and die. Learn the pivotal difference between being broken and being broken open, and how to gently nurture yourself, and strategically plant “seeds” for your future growth.   Top...

Do you ever get frustrated that your partner just won’t listen? If you are anything like me, you see your partner, and all of his flaws, pretty darned clearly. You’ve said (or at least thought) things like, “If he would just _____, then things would be so much easier!” And it’s true. If your partner would just take responsibility for their actions, atone for their mistakes, admit what they did, show you their phone, cut it off with the other woman, get on the same page as you, value the same...

Whether it’s taking you and the kids off of your soon-to-be-ex-husband’s cell phone plan, protecting yourself from a psychotic affair partner who is lashing out on social media, or trying to get out of a lease that you signed in haste when you found out about the affair, legal questions, and legal remedies are all around and more available to us than we might imagine. In this episode, consumer protection attorney Danny Karon shares his tips and wisdom on how to navigate just about any legal...

In this episode, Lora answers six questions from her Facebook group, Affair Recovery for Women – Flourish After Infidelity. If you’ve got a question that you’d like Lora to answer in her next show, reach out, join her Facebook community, and ask! Join the Facebook Community Here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/affairrecoveryforwomen/ Your Questions Answered: How do you “get over” the act that you will never be your husband’s “last, first,” or anything for that matter. How to stop bringing up...

How many times have you read books, taken classes, and taken steps to change yourself or your relationship, but couldn’t quite get that change to last? Using the transtheoretical model of change, here is what you need to know in order to make the changes you desire in yourself and your relationship. Roadmap for Successful & Lasting Change: Identify where you are at on the transformation journey: Pre-Contemplation: D-day just happened and you are struggling to come to terms with what...

Are you ready to wake up from the nightmare of infidelity and betrayal? Do you want to feel calm, confident, and sexy again? Then join me for a Free 5-Day Spring Awakening Workshop, April 8-12, 12-12:30 MST via Zoom. Replays available. Sign up at www.SparkleAllSeason.com   Top take-a-ways: Plant the seeds for what you want to harvest in the next chapter of your life Find and experience calm and confidence during the betrayal recovery journey Falling in love with yourself and feeling sexy and...

Comparing yourself to the other woman, while normal and healthy in ways, can also become obsessive. Instead of being led down a path of hate, revenge, and bitterness, here’s how to understand what you are doing, why you are doing it, and learn to make a healthy, more accurate comparison between you and your level of integrity and self-respect and her, and her level of integrity and self-respect. Top take-a-ways: How comparing yourself to the other woman can give you a sense of power, control,...

Post-betrayal transformation is NOT what you think it is! The other day I was driving to a venue I had never been to before. From the middle of a random parking lot, with no building in site, Google Maps announced, “you have arrived” to which I responded in frustration, “No, actually I have not!” Although I eventually found my way to the proper venue, it made me think about the glorious moments of transformation we often seek but rarely find and how, when we do arrive, it’s not always as...

Defensiveness & Blame – Two Toxic Behaviors that Prevent Healing Defensiveness and blame are two toxic behaviors that both the betraying partner and the betrayed partner can easily slip into. This show, which is geared for both the betrayed partner and the betrayed, will help you both understand what’s at the root of these behaviors and most importantly, how to stop so you can move towards understanding and healing. Top take-a-ways: Denial, diminishment, and gaslighting are three ways...

This show is for the betraying partner who wants to understand themselves, figure out what led to the affair, and support their partner in healing so they can forgive and heal both themselves and the marriage. Want a copy of Shawn's guide to affair recovery for the Betraying Partner? Email [email protected] and it will be sent to you! Lora’s husband courageously shares his perspective on affair recovery and some of the things he did to understand his unacknowledged and unexpressed...

While there are many great books or trainings on couple’s communication, one of the most empowering things you can learn how to do as the betrayed partner is learn how to communicate clearly and advocate on your own behalf. This is especially true for women who are often told to “keep it down, be nice,” or “keep the peace.” Top take-a-ways: Gaining clarity on the purpose of your communication, what you hope to accomplish, and what you want to know. Slowing down, tracking your answers, and...

Self-love is not just self-care. Self-love is the ability to be comfortable with yourself and to develop the habit of asking yourself what you need and fulfilling your needs consistently. While you might believe that self-love is optional, or something that you will develop one day when, unless you love yourself, you can’t expect anyone else to love you. Nobody can love you any more than you love yourself. Todays’ episode covers the topics of loving yourself versus loving others, conditional...

Understanding Trauma – What it is & Why it Matters Everybody seems to be talking about trauma and triggers, but what does “being traumatized” or “experiencing a trigger” really mean? Having a bad day, feeling upset or uncomfortable is not trauma. Experiencing something that renders you unable to function the way you previously functioned is. Trauma is not linear or logical and is stored in the body and brain subconsciously as well as consciously. Working with a coach, counselor,...

If your partner cheats, the assumption is you’ll leave. Others trying to support you will often say things like “take him for all he’s worth!” or “make him pay!” Perhaps in the past you’ve even claimed that “if he ever cheats, I’m outta here!” The decision seems so clear – until you’ve been cheated on. In reality, there’s more drama, emotion, and pain to contend with than you ever anticipated, and leaving is not always the right option. Or if it is, now may not be the right time. Here’s what...

Betrayal, as painful as it is, can serve as a profound revelation about oneself. Betrayal not only exposes the truth about the person who betrayed us but also unveils deep-seated wounds within us. While betrayal hurts, it doesn’t damage our core self. When we delve into the idea that external actions, no matter how hurtful, cannot change the essence of who we are, we heal. For real. Taking responsibility and control over one’s life means moving beyond blaming others and focusing on that which...

Healing from betrayal does not have to be hard. When you are clear about what being on the other side of betrayal looks like, it’s easier to get yourself there – to figure out which steps you need to take and what kind of help you need. This is the story of my recovery journey, what I did, what made that journey easier and quicker, and what you can do to mend your broken heart, shattered soul, and reclaim yourself. Top take-a-ways The power of a clear decision and how deciding what you want,...

Let’s break down the saying, once a cheater, always a cheater. How do you know when is it true and when is it not true? What are the signs that your partner will or will not cheat again? Is there anything you can do to prevent your partner from cheating again? Can people really change? What if they don’t want to change? How would it feel for you to be labeled as the worst thing you had ever done? Let’s talk about all of this and more so you can be the best, healthiest version of yourself even...

Let’s talk about anger after infidelity and betrayal. How much is too much? When are you wallowing in anger and when are you justifiably angry? What does it mean when you “bash your partner?” Is it possible to be both positive and forward leaning while also being angry? What about the whole concept of “female anger?” What if you don’t know how to be angry because you spent your whole life being a good girl who kept the peace, smiled, and made nice? Sit down, grab a cup of tea and let’s talk...