I think it is impossible to live a happy gay life without authenticity.  I don't believe it's possible to live your purpose, your vision, and accomplish your goals unless you are completely authentic as a gay man.  So if you are living two kinds of lives, at work you are "straight acting" and at home and with friends you are yourself, you are setting up yourself for a life that doesn't work long term.  This duality kind of life where you switch your mind depending on the environments,  leads...