Do you feel burnt out dating? Exhausted by men? Bitter and resentful? There’s a reason: you have high self esteem but low self worth. This week I’ll break down this confusing concept and how to fix it! 💜 JOIN ME IN COSTA RICA 💜 https://bit.ly/32QBxYz 💜 ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜 FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜 ENJOYING IT? 💜 Please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Summer is in full swing… and burnout might be too. I’ll tell you how burnout can trick you into thinking you’re falling for someone, and help set boundaries not only to keep burnout at bay, but why they’re crucial to keeping a guy interested! 💜JOIN ME IN THE DOMINICAN💜 https://bit.ly/DRwithShallonxo 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

Who doesn’t want to have a hot girl summer? But there’s a right way and a wrong way to have a summer fling. I’ll break down the definition of a successful summer romance, and exactly the kind of guys to avoid if you’re not looking to get your heart broken! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices....

Tired of talking yourself to death about your feelings and boundaries when a guy is disrespectful? I will give you four (science backed!) magic words to communicate your point without sounding desperate, naggy or needy—and put the ball back in his court!  💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

Let's stop the normalization of grinding for work every day. We need to start taking time for ourselves before we emotionally collapse.  💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

There’s a time to lean in…but there’s a time to step away. If you’re feeling anxious about reentering society, burnt out on socialization, exhausted by relationship, or just need a little bit of a pause for yourself, I will tell you how to disengage and embrace a self-serving season! 💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more...

We all want to have a hot girl summer but…what exactly does that mean? For me, it means not needing approval or rescuing from any guy or even society. I’ll break down how to deal with body shamers and why gettin’ yo bag is the key to happiness!  💜JOIN ME FOR EVIL WEK💜  https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...

Putting yourself out there is crucial to making friends…but what do you do when your coupled up galpals aren’t reciprocating the effort? This week we’ll help a Shalligator who is the odd (single!) girl out in a sea of loved up ladies.  💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more...

This week on YouTube I explained why silence is your main weapon if you want an ex back, but here we’ll delve a little deeper into the strategy behind it. Plus, we’ll follow up to my tale about a booty call that became a wife, and what precisely she said to him to get out of the sex zone and into an engagement ring!  Take the MedCerts quiz to see if becoming a medical professional is right for you, and start your 21-day free trial now at medcerts.com/shallon   💜JOIN ME IN...

This week we talk to a Shalligator who wants to rekindle things with a guy she rejected (twice!) and another who wants her husband to morph back into the man she married, and not the mega douche he's become. I'll help you let go of regret and knock some sense into guys who are letting you slip away!  💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜SHOP MY CUSTOM QUILT COLLAB💜 https://jlbeautyllc.com/collections/quilts/products/biscuit-rag-quilt-by-shallon-lester 💜ASK ME A...

With summer around the corner, it’s easy to have spring fever about boys and dating. But before you start swiping, texting or hooking up, I’ll give you a pep talk on why we NEVER CHASE. Plus, I’ll help a Shalligator who isn’t sure if she’s worked through her issues enough to get out in the dating game. 💜JOIN ME IN TULUM!💜 https://wearetrend45.com 💜GET CUSTOM HAIR CARE 💜 www.formulate.co/podcast, use code “SHALLON” at checkout 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS...

Dating apps are a great way to meet guys…and an excellent way to completely waste your time with f*ckboys! I’ll tell you red flags to look for in a boy’s profile, plus help one Shalligator who isn’t sure if her new Bumble boy is all in or all trouble! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! Go check out their website at w ww.usualwines.com and use my discount code “SHALLON” for $8 off your first order and try your first glass on us! Go to...

Change sucks. Change is the worst when it’s change you didn’t particularly ask for...but isn’t MOST change out of your control? I’ll give you five tips on becoming more resilient instead of bitter and erotic, and talk to one shower gator whose ex just dropped a bomb about the change in his own life! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping! 💜ASK ME A QUESTION 💜 https://shallonlester.com 💜GET SEX TIPS ON...

Do you find yourself attracting guys who don’t really have a social life of their own? Or are your “friends” flaky, frazzled and forgettable? I’ll give you tips on getting a life for him AND yourself! Head on over to www.formulate.co/podcast complete the brief hair questionnaire and use my code “SHALLON” at checkout. Order today and you will get a second order FREE. 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON...

We should all be visualizing what we want out of our future but what do you do when imagination goes bad? If you struggle with romanticizing things at the expense of reality, I’ll give you the two keys to happiness and help you pump the breaks on a runaway emotional train! Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free 30-day trial, just pay for shipping and handling! 💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON...

This week, we’ll break down the psychology of beta males who neg amazing women, plus share some lessons from our Shalliterature book club selection, “Essentialism,” and help you walk away from “perfect” opportunities that don’t feel so perfect after all.  💜GET “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! 💜GET FORMULATE HAIR...

As we emerge out of the pandemic, we have the unique opportunity to remake things into a new normal, from our job situation to our friendship. I’ll tell you how to rejigger dynamics that are/aren’t working, plus talk to a Shalligator who worries that she may have followed “Why Men Love Bitches” a little TOO closely! 💜GET “WHY MEN LOVE BITCHES” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜GET SEX TIPS ON FLAZE 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please...

We can’t control what happens to us in life, and it doesn’t seem like we can control our subsequent bitterness either – but we can. This week I’ll talk to Shalligators dealing with unfair situations at work, and also in the realm of sexual trauma, and share some practical, easy tips to help them let go of bitterness Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM”...

This week will continue our spring cleaning series on tossing out thoughts and behaviors that belong in the trash heap. Will help a Shalligator in a toxic fight-loop with her boyfriend of four months. Are his criticisms valid? Or are they squabbling about surface level topics and not core issues? I’ll break it down and give you three ways to fight fair! Go to HelloFresh.com/shallon12 and use code shallon12 for 12 free meals, including free shipping Go to Curology.com/shallon for a free...

As life (sorta) starts to return to normal and the weather shifts, it’s time to take stock of who we’re keeping in our lives—and why. This week, I’ll talk to two Shalligators who don’t know whether to keep or toss old friends who’ve turned into frenemies. 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜WATCH MY FLAZE VIDEOS 💜 https://flaze.com/shallonlester 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and...

Are you oh so independent and confident…until you catch feelings? I’ll help a Shalligator who finds herself morphing into a clingy girlfriend and isn’t sure how to stop it. But is there such a thing as TOO independent? I’ll break down how to stop feeling desperate in a relationship and uncover what the fear voice is telling you!  Go to FlexFits.com/GIRLONTOP and use code GIRLONTOP for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping! Go to...

This week on the YouTube channel we’ve been talking about how to say no and set up boundaries, but sometimes bellowing NO causes more stress than just doing the thing...or, doing the person. If you’re struggling with this concept, I’ll give you some practical real world examples of how to turn someone down, and why The Ick is a terrible byproduct of a boundary-less life! 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY BLOG 💜 https://shallon.substack.com 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO...

This week, we’ll hear from an exasperated Shalligator Who is stuck on vacation with a complainer. When dealing with an emotional and social terrorist, do you fight fire with fire? Do you ignore them and walk away? I’ll tell you the best way to deal with a victim mentality that protects your peace—not politeness.  Best Friends with Nicole Byer & Sasheer Zamata comes out every Wednesday, on Stitcher, Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or wherever you get your podcasts! Go to Curology.com/SHALLION...

This week, I’ll help a Shalligator sort out whether or not it’s wise to have a joint bank account with a man who doesn’t respect your cash flow. And, since Shallentine’s Day is coming up, I’ll give you some pro tips on picking great (cheap!) lingerie and what guys really think when you wear it!  Go to FlexFits.com/girlontop and use code girlontop for 20% off Flex Disc Starter Kits—or 10% off your first Flex Cup—PLUS free U.S. shipping 💜GET “ESSSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜READ MY...

This week we tackle two seemingly unrelated issues—ruined birthdays and STDs—and explore why a lack of boundaries can lead us right into both! 💜READ “ESSENTIALISM” 💜 https://amzn.to/2MuJBFN 💜TUNE INTO XO RADIO 💜 https://stationhead.live.shallonxo 💜FOLLOW 💜 Insta/Twitter/TikTok @ShallonXO 💜ENJOYING IT? 💜 please rate and review this podcast! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices