Standard Self-improvement advice is usually beige, unhelpful and often just wrong. We dive into the topic of "You are the 5 people you spend most time with" and learn where it is wrong and dangerous to follow. Instead, we learn a toolkit to be ourselves wherever we are and build relationships that nourish us. Lessons: Where common advice falls short Signs of toxic relationships blocking you from your potential Signs of healthy relationships Using the Growth Mindset to control your influences and outcomes Seeking variety from your inputs The dangers of conforming and group-think This episode holds a core mental-model for building a Growth Mindset and how to seek inspiration around you. Avoid getting caught in group-think or relationships that create Fixed Mindset thinking and be more yourself. Sponsors: ManScaped: Leading the charge in Men's grooming below and above the waist. Get 20% Off and Free Shipping with the code GROWTH - ManScaped.com/Growth SleepyClub: Doctor-approved natural sleeping aid that improves sleep quality. Safe to take every day. 20% discount code 'GROWTH20' - SleepyClub.co.uk ShortForm: Summaries and guides for the world's best books and ideas. FREE trial and 20% off annual fee - ShortForm.com/Psychology Recommended Episodes: Social Pressure Personality Disorder - 05th May 2024 Be More Yourself in 2024 - 05th Jan 2024 16 Paradoxes of Life - 16th Jan 2024 Meet Sam Free Call - Schedule Link Growth Mindset pod: Sam Webster explores the psychology of happiness, satisfaction, purpose, and growth through the lens of self-improvement. Watch - YouTube (Growth Mindset) Mail - GrowthMindsetPodcast(at)gmail.com Insta - SamJam.zen Newsletter - Expansive Thinking Questions to reflect on What are my strengths? When do I feel like I am being myself? I am putting my energy directly into the thing I want to do or is it postponed for some reason? Is there a faster way to reach the lifestyle I want? Who are my idols? Why do I look up to them? Could I have better idols? Who are 5 cool but very different friends to me, what would they tell me to do? Chapters: 00:00 - What is a Growth Mindset? 00:20 - You are not the 5 people you spend time with 01:23 - How Skiing proves others don't affect you 04:08 - Don't be blocked from being yourself 04:40 - Best Friends Don't Need To Be Aspirational Figures 06:30 - Opposite can work 08:50 - Choose your inspiration 09:36 - Small encounters can have butterfly effects 10:53 - Prioritise healthy relationships 11:30 - Avoid being lost in generic groups/cliques 12:08 - Sahil Lavingia and GumRoad 13:53 - Build Variety in your relationships 14:53 - Questions to journal on (see above) 16:05 - Life tips Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices