As we embrace the holiday spirit, it's essential to recognize the challenges it brings and the importance of setting boundaries. In today’s episode, Dr. Tracy is sitting down with Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and renowned relationship expert, to unravel the intricacies of setting and maintaining boundaries. Terri, the author of "Boundary Boss: The Essential Guide to Talk True, Be Seen, and (Finally) Live Free," shares her personal journey from being a "boundary disaster" to a boundary advocate. The conversation delves into the confusion surrounding boundaries, the concept of high-functioning codependency, and the challenges of setting boundaries with family. The two also discuss navigating guilt, standing firm in decisions, and the empowering choice to stop people pleasing and prioritize what you really want over obligations during the holiday season. Lastly, Dr. Terri leaves listeners with valuable insights on handling boundary challenges with family members and why it's perfectly okay to set them during the holidays and beyond.  Today’s topics include:  Terri’s definition of what boundaries are  Why women often fear setting boundaries or saying "no"  The importance of making your preferences and limits known  Codependency and auto-accommodation  Setting boundaries with family and the guilt associated   What to do when your loved ones aren’t respecting your “no”     You can find Terri on her Instagram, website, and podcast.  Check out a special gift just for you from Terri when you visit https://boundaryboss.me/codependency/  A special thank you to our incredible sponsors for making this show possible! Lume - As a special offer for listeners, new customers GET $5 OFF a Lume Starter Pack with code "INYS" at lumedeoderant.com Honeylove - Save up to 50% Off sitewide at honeylove.com/INYS  OneSkin - Get 15% off with the code "INYS" at oneskin.co You can now order my new book “I Didn’t Sign Up for This” here!  Looking for more? Join me in my online teachings so you can feel like a team again.  Get intentional with your partner and reconnect with small actions every day with 28 Days of Love    Ready to learn how to repair? Take my FREE masterclass       Looking to improve your relationship? Join me in my online program, Be Connected      Deepen your Connection with your Partner: 100 Questions to Connect  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices