In this solo episode regarding sitting in the fire and feeling all the feels, I enjoyed answering your spot-on questions. Q1: Allana, why do people bypass, it totally annoys me when they pretend they're over it, but clearly they're not. A: Yes, I call it sprinkles on top of the ice cream cone of shit. I agree that it's highly annoying and yet underneath it all, they are terrified, so have compassion whether it's somebody else or you who is doing the bypassing. The reason I mentioned you might be bypassing too, is that people tend to annoy me when they show me what I have NOT processed yet. When they show me what I HAVE processed, I feel compassion. Most of the time I'm humbled and have more work to do :-) Q2: How do I know if I'm truly feeling or not, feeling it ALL or not, getting to the raw depth of the true emotion? A: I have this beautiful, completely committed, shows up and does the work client who was confident she was in her body, yet she was not. She was in her head doing her best to figure it out, understand, justify, occasionally get defensive or blame in validated frustration. She really was trying so hard! Yes that's the word… trying…… she wasn't surrendering come as she still wanted to be in control. Her ego wanted to be right. It was only after she and I did a VIP where she bravely felt past where she normally disassociates that she came home. And she was One with All. And it was exquisite. Q3: How can feeling through the pain of heartbreak actually catapult my growth? It just feels like torture, what's the point of that? A: Every single time for the past 20 to 25 years when a client authentically feels an emotion without trying to fix it or push it away, and they just allow the body and spirit to support their integration, they don't just eliminate the pain, they become powerful. They don't just eliminate the shame, they become unapologetic. They don't just eliminate the betrayal, they become the embodiment of forgiveness. They don't just eliminate fear, they become peace itself. It's only torture because you're resisting the feeling. Granted feeling the feeling sucks for a little bit, But then integration feels like Home, Wholeness and Embodied Calm. Every time. ❤️ Successful professionally yet suck at deep intimate love? Can’t get it right as hard as you try? Hate yourself because you know better, but the pattern still continues? Desire 1-on-1 support to integrate these subconscious trauma wounds? This is my genius. Let's set you free. Schedule your VIP Intimacy Breakthrough Experience with me here:   www.allanapratt.com/vip  Subscribers of my Intimate Conversations Podcast are eligible to use the Scholarship Code: INTIMATE ________________________________________________________ ❤️ As committed as you are, what’s still repelling deep connection, fulfilling sex, and heart-centered intimacy? Your Blindspots. Unintegrated heartbreak. Let’s move you from confused to clarity, insecure to confident, disheartened to hopeful... single to finding The One. We’ve got you.  Schedule your Intimacy Breakthrough Experience with me today https://allanapratt.com/connect  Scholarship Code: READYNOW ________________________________________________________ ❤️ Finding the One is Bullsh*t. Becoming the One is brilliant and beautiful, and ironically the key to attracting your ideal partner. Move beyond the fear of getting hurt again. Register for Become the One Introductory Program. http://allanapratt.com/becomeintro  Use Code: BTO22 to get over 40% off _________________________________________________ ❤️ Complimentary Intimacy Mini-Course ~ After 20 yrs as an Intimacy Expert, I’ve discovered the TOP 5 Mistakes that destroy a conscious relationship. Learn how to avoid them so you can thrive deliciously. https://allanapratt.com/top5mistakes  ________________________________________________________ ❤️ What’s your Intimacy Blind Spot? Discover