Historically, thediscourse of absence is carried on bythe Woman : Woman is sedentary,Man hunts, journeys; Woman is faithful (she waits ), man is fickle(he sails away, he cruises) . It is Woman who gives shape to absence, elaborates its fiction, for she has time to do so;  she weaves and she...

要追溯历史的话，倾诉离愁别绪的是女人：女人在一处呆着，男人外出狩猎，四处奔波；女人专一（她得等待），男子多变（他扬帆远航，浪迹天涯）。于是，是女人酿出了思夫的情愫，并不断添枝加叶，因为她有的是时间；她边纺织边浅吟低唱，纺织小曲里透露出安详宁静（纺锤发出单调的嗡嗡声）和怅然若失（听来那么遥远，风尘仆仆的节奏，大海的汹涌，车行的辚辚声）。 由此看来，一个男子若要倾诉对远方情人的思念便会显示出某种女子气：这个处于等待和痛苦中的男子奇迹般地女性化了。男子女性化的原因主要不在于他所处位置的颠倒，而在于他的恋爱。

Sometimes I haveno difficulty enduring absence. Then I am “normal”: I fall in with the way"everyone" endures the departure of a "beloved person"; Idiligently obey the training by which I was very early accustomed to beseparated from my mother- which nonetheless remained, at its source, a matterof...