In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, hosts Thais Gibson and Mike Di Zio dive deep into the complexities of attachment styles, offering personal insights and practical advice for anyone navigating relationships. Both former avoidants who have worked hard to become securely attached, Thais and Mike share their own experiences, discussing how they’ve overcome challenges and what they continue to work on. This episode explores the reactions of fearful avoidants and dismissive avoidants after a heated argument and how it is handled by both attachment styles. Thais and Mike also discuss why certain attachment styles may or may not want children and the experiences leading up to those decisions. Whether you're trying to understand yourself or a loved one better, this episode provides valuable tools and perspectives to help you on your path. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:02:12 - Viewer Question: Why Don’t Avoidants Want To Have Kids? 00:03:01 - Mike Shares His Reasons 00:06:07 - The Support System of Having Children 00:08:36 - Fear of Disempowerment 00:10:36 - Thais Shares from the Fearful Avoidant Perspective 00:13:14 - The Helicopter Parent 00:17:21 - Thais Answers Whether FAs Want Kids 00:19:10 - Shout Out to APs 00:20:01 - HelloFresh Ad 00:21:28 - Indeed Ad 00:23:21 - When Avoidants Freeze Up and Go Into Detachment Mode 00:24:23 - Mike Shares His Detachment Experiences 00:26:08 - Reconnection Phase 00:27:23 - Afraid of Overreacting and Saying Something Wrong 00:29:21 - Modelling From Parents 00:31:42 - Stonewalling and Icing the Other Person Out 00:36:38 - Fearful Avoidants and Spitefulness 00:41:58 - Mike Share His Insights How to Cope When a Partner Shuts Down 00:43:49 - Resolution 00:45:56 - Moving Forward Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=youtube-podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-09-02-24&el=youtube Get FREE breakfast for life at HelloFresh.com/freethais Get a $75 Sponsored Job Credit to get your jobs more visibility at Indeed.com/THAIS Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices