Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=mg-10-06-24&el=podcast In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, co-hosts Thais Gibson and Mike dive deep into the complex world of avoidant attachment styles. They explore how dismissive avoidants often have unrealistic relationship expectations, such as needing their partner to be emotionally self-sufficient and not "needy," as well as avoiding deep emotional discussions. These expectations can lead to challenges in relationships, especially if they are unwilling to compromise or recognize the importance of emotional connection and open communication in building a healthy partnership. Tune in for an honest, heartfelt conversation that aims to shed light on the intricacies of attachment and connection. Don't miss the opportunity to learn how these attachment styles can heal and transform to form more secure, fulfilling relationships. Plus, hear the hosts share their personal journeys from avoidance to secure attachment. Listen now on Spotify, iTunes, or watch the video version on YouTube. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:01:15 - Discussing the Ideal Relationship for Dismissive Avoidants 00:02:28 - Unhealthy Expectations in Dismissive Avoidant Relationships 00:03:23 - The Fear of Neediness in Relationships 00:06:11 - Financial Stability and Autonomy in Dismissive Avoidant Dynamics 00:07:02 - Discomfort with Discussing Future Plans 00:09:23 - The Importance of Boundaries and Dialog in Relationships 00:11:12 - Managing Drama and Emotional Regulation in Avoidant Attachment 00:13:12 - Accepting Flaws and Judgment in Dismissive Avoidant Relationships 00:16:01 - Communicating Needs Effectively to Avoidants 00:19:08 - Reinforcing Boundaries and Needs with Avoidants 00:21:02 - Balancing the Relationship Over Time 00:25:13 - The Need for Alone Time in Avoidant Relationships 00:34:18 - Summarizing Avoidant Expectations and Healthy Compromises 00:36:17 - Unhealthy Expectations vs. Healthy Relationship Needs 00:39:11 - Negotiating Time Together in Relationships 00:44:49 - Importance of Emotional Expression in Relationships 00:50:09 - Helping Avoidants Open Up Emotionally 00:52:34 - Using Thinking Language vs. Feeling Language with Avoidants Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethais Get a $75 Sponsored Job Credit to get your jobs more visibility at https://www.indeed.com/thais Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices