Get personalized courses, live webinars & Q&As, and more for free for 7 days! https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/dream-life?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=7-day-trial&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-10-21-24&el=podcast Become a certified relationship coach to secure your financial future with our IAT™ Program. https://attachment.personaldevelopmentschool.com/iat?utm_source=podcast&utm_campaign=iat-live&utm_medium=organic&utm_content=yt-10-21-24&el=podcast In this episode of Can This Be Fixed?, co-hosts Thais Gibson and Mike Di Zio delve into the nuanced dynamics of anxious and fearful avoidant attachment styles in relationships. They unpack how anxious attachments often struggle with unrealistic expectations, such as needing constant communication and validation from their partner, which can lead to feelings of insecurity and hurt. Thais and Mike also explore the fearful avoidant’s deep desire for transparency and connection, and how their need to know everything about their partner stems from a fear of losing the relationship. Through open and thoughtful discussion, they provide practical strategies for creating healthier, more secure relationships by balancing these attachment needs with understanding and communication. Tune in for an insightful conversation that offers actionable tips for transforming attachment patterns and fostering deeper connections. Don't miss the opportunity to learn how these attachment styles can heal and transform to form more secure, fulfilling relationships. Plus, hear the hosts share their personal journeys from avoidance to secure attachment. Listen now on Spotify, iTunes, or watch the video version on YouTube. Timestamps: 00:00:00 - Intro 00:00:46 - Welcome and introduction of the podcast 00:01:14 - Personal journey from fearful avoidant attachment to secure attachment 00:02:08 - Today's topics: anxious attachment and relationship expectations 00:03:01 - Reframing anxious attachment expectations 00:03:32 - Prioritizing the relationship over everything else 00:05:18 - Discussion about dismissive avoidant attachment priorities 00:10:10 - Anxious attachment and feelings of being hurt 00:17:16 - Need for constant validation and approval 00:20:18 - Moving from constant to consistent validation 00:26:31 - Transition to fearful avoidant expectations 00:30:12 - Discussing fearful avoidants wanting to know everything 00:35:35 - Fearful avoidants and deep questions in relationships 00:46:58 - Importance of congruency, context, and consideration in building trust 00:51:06 - Upcoming topics for the next episode Get FREE breakfast for life at https://www.HelloFresh.com/freethais Get Your Question Answered by Thais and Mike: https://www.reddit.com/r/CanThisBeFixed/ Let’s connect! https://www.youtube.com/@ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool https://www.tiktok.com/@thaisgibson https://www.instagram.com/thepersonaldevelopmentschool/ https://www.facebook.com/ThePersonalDevelopmentSchool/ Find Mike Online: https://www.instagram.com/dareal_mikedee #TheThaisGibsonPodcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices