In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss the critical importance of phrasing choices correctly in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). While we often focus on including the word "choose" in our choice-giving, the phrasing itself is just as essential. I explain why questions like "Do you want to choose?" or "Would you like to choose?" are problematic, as they invite a "no" response and undermine the structure and empowerment that proper choice-giving offers. I share...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a thoughtful question from Malley in Texas, who wonders how not having children might influence her work as a play therapist, especially in building trust with parents. Malley expresses concerns about parents questioning her ability to help their children simply because she isn’t a parent herself. I share personal anecdotes from my early career and offer insights into how to confidently navigate these situations. I explain that parents...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Jyotsna in India about a child who enters the playroom calm and reserved but then suddenly shifts to destructive, aggressive play mid-session. I discuss how this kind of transition often represents the “calm before the storm” — the child’s internal preparation for the emotional release needed. I explain that this shift is a positive indication that the child is beginning to dive into their therapeutic work, allowing...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer two questions from Chris in the Virgin Islands. First, Chris asks about how to respond when children frequently ask how much time is left in their session. I explain how this can indicate various needs, such as a desire for control, anxiety, or simply curiosity, and share strategies for reflecting their question and, if necessary, providing a neutral, factual answer to help them feel secure. Chris’s second question focuses on recognizing...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I talk about the importance of avoiding commentary on a child’s body or physical actions in the playroom, such as saying, “Your body is telling you it needs to move.” While well-intentioned, these types of remarks can lead to interpretation and assumptions, which go against the neutrality required in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). I discuss the need to simply track behavior or reflect content without imposing our own ideas on the...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer a question from Sandy in Iowa about creating SMART Goals, referencing the four universal outcomes in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). Sandy wanted guidance on how to document data to share with parents and teachers in a school setting. I explain how each universal outcome—such as increased self-regulation, self-esteem, emotional vocabulary, and worldview—can be broken down into observable behaviors both in the playroom and in the...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Sarah Beth in North Carolina about handling a tricky situation with two siblings in therapy. Sarah Beth’s client feels jealous because his brother, who sees a different therapist with a more directive approach, receives prizes after his sessions. This difference has left Sarah Beth’s client feeling upset, and she’s looking for guidance on how to support him without introducing rewards or prizes into her child-centered play...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss the importance of staying neutral and avoiding value-laden language when a child disagrees with us in the playroom. Often, therapists may respond with phrases like "I made a mistake" or "I got that wrong," which can unintentionally imply fault or ownership. I explain why these responses can be problematic and share strategies to reflect the child’s feelings or thoughts without assigning blame or responsibility. I emphasize...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer a question from Michelle in Texas regarding how child-centered play therapy (CCPT) aligns with the needs of children on the autism spectrum. Michelle asked about potential differences in themes, stages, and considerations for therapists working with neurodivergent children. I share insights from my experience and explain why children on the spectrum may progress more slowly through the phases of CCPT, often requiring more sessions. Their...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Melissa in Colorado about how to communicate upcoming absences to children and their parents. Melissa specifically asked about handling maternity leave and vacations that require taking time away from the playroom. I outline my approach for both scenarios, explaining that vacations can be discussed simply the week before, while extended absences, such as maternity leave, need a more gradual, structured countdown to help...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Nicole in Indiana about finding research that compares child-centered play therapy (CCPT) with other types of therapy. Nicole, whose manager is skeptical of CCPT’s broad applicability, especially for issues outside trauma, asked for research to support CCPT's effectiveness across various child needs. Instead of a comparison, I discuss how research shows CCPT’s success with a range of issues—from ADHD and anxiety to...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Deidra in Virginia, a first-year supervised therapist whose supervisor isn’t child-centered and often suggests teaching coping skills to young clients in play therapy sessions. I share my perspective on why child-centered play therapy (CCPT) doesn’t involve directive instruction like teaching coping skills and how children naturally develop coping mechanisms through the CCPT therapeutic process itself. I offer...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Suzanne in Maryland, who has been working with a six-year-old child that engages in repetitive dressing and undressing of Barbie dolls in each session. Suzanne wonders how to interpret this behavior and whether it aligns with themes like nurturing and caregiving. I explain that this type of repetitive play can often be a form of self-soothing, especially in early sessions when a child is still in the initiation and...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss an important topic: not assuming that content is emotionally connected in child-centered play therapy (CCPT). I explain that therapists often make the mistake of reacting to play scenarios based on their own assumptions rather than waiting for the child to cue the emotional response. I share specific examples, such as being handcuffed, shot, or stabbed during play, and emphasize the need to maintain neutrality unless the...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to Ethan from Virginia, who asked about writing in-session notes during child-centered play therapy (CCPT). Ethan wants to know what kinds of things to document and how to categorize them effectively. I explain my personal note-taking system, breaking down how I organize observations, themes, significant quotes, and other key moments from the session to make parent consultations more efficient. I emphasize that note-taking is not so much...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to Brianna from Texas, who asks about the process of sending birthday cards to clients while maintaining confidentiality. I explain the benefits of sending birthday cards and how it strengthens the relationship between therapist and child. I also share practical steps for ensuring confidentiality, such as using only the child’s name and mailing address and leaving the sender’s identity discreet. I also provide tips on how to make...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I discuss a common deviation in child-centered play therapy (CCPT)—using phrases like "you feel," "you must be," or "you seem" when reflecting a child’s feelings. These phrases, often used as buffers, can unintentionally shift the focus from the child's actual feeling to the qualifier, disrupting the reflective process. I explain why it's more effective to use direct reflections like "You are mad" or "You are sad," which support the...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to Nneka from England, a returning listener who recently transitioned from being a mobile therapist to setting up a permanent play therapy space. Nneka asks about how to handle the shift in dynamics when children are used to playing outdoors during mobile sessions but are now expected to remain in the playroom. I explain how to establish new expectations while maintaining the child-centered play therapy (CCPT) model. I provide guidance...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I answer a question from Sweeney in India about how to handle a 12-year-old client who frequently makes up elaborate stories in the playroom. Sweeney is concerned that the child’s storytelling might be problematic, especially since the stories appear to reflect a fantasy version of her life, and the child’s mother has noticed an increase in this behavior. I explain that children often use storytelling as a coping mechanism to manage their emotions...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a question from Christina in Vermont regarding the first session with a child in the playroom and how to incorporate an intake assessment without deviating from the child-centered play therapy (CCPT) model. Christina specifically asks about the "house-tree-person" drawing assessment and how to approach it during that initial session. I explain that any assessment or directive activity must only be done in the first session to avoid...

In this Session Savvy episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I talk about the subtle impact of saying "OK" in the playroom. While it seems harmless in everyday conversation, in child-centered play therapy (CCPT), "OK" can unintentionally convey permission or agreement when the child should have full autonomy over their choices. I explain the difference between using "OK" for acknowledgment versus giving permission and why it's important to avoid this habit in the playroom. I also provide...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Sarah in Missouri about encouraging parents to commit to weekly play therapy sessions. Sarah has noticed that some families are scheduling sessions every other week or missing several weeks in between, which is affecting the child's progress. I explain why consistency is crucial in child-centered play therapy (CCPT) and how to set clear expectations with parents from the start. I share strategies for communicating the...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I respond to a great question from Vicky in Canada about the language we use with children, particularly the phrases "good choice" or "bad choice." Vicky expressed concerns about hearing these terms frequently, especially in daycare settings, and wanted to know how this fits (or doesn’t) within the child-centered play therapy (CCPT) model. I explain why labeling choices as "good" or "bad" places a judgment on the child's actions, shifting the focus...

In this episode of the Play Therapy Podcast, I address a question from Jonathan in Ohio, who is curious about how child-centered play therapy (CCPT) can be preventative in nature. Jonathan asks about how the skills learned in CCPT serve children long-term, particularly in preventing issues like substance abuse, domestic violence, anxiety, and depression. I discuss how CCPT helps children develop an internal locus of control, self-regulation, and emotional intelligence, which serve them...