“Mark and Steve’s approach may be the perfect thing for some. After listening to the most recent episode, I decided to write a review. I’ve listened to all their episodes along with many other podcasts in the recovery space. After working 12 steps in various groups including SAL for over 20 years I Learned that much of the tools provided there just don’t work for me . I would recommend listening to Sarah Brewer, Zach Spafford, Sathia Sam, or Tony Overbay. I believe using the word addict and addiction can really serve to keep many people stuck. When you take away the porn, all you are left with is unhealthy or difficult emotions. Learning how to deal with these emotions with less shame is a more effective way to mindfully approach the struggle! If you are having to go to 12 step meetings 10 years into your recovery and still have to call an accountability partner every day, I think it’s time to find a better set of tools. I just don’t really think the 12 step approach for alcoholics anonymous transfers into the sexuality realm very well. I do agree that the true connection, authenticity, and healing that need to happen for real recovery can happen outside of 12 steps with the right tools and the right therapy in the right mindset, and with mindfulness. I’ve experienced more true recovery, not just sobriety, with an approach that feels like finally finding some answers! If you are in a hole, and the only tools people are offering is the same set of shovels you’ve always had, and they tell you that you just have to dig harder, get madder, etc… it’s the wrong tools. The tight tools really are more liberating. The sooner we stop calling this struggle “addiction” and own the fact that we can choose differently and have different results the better. My wife loves that I can finally be authentic and honest without the shame and labels.”
Flamboy88 via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
04/06/22