159 Q&A Quickie: How can I handle my resentment that my partner isn’t into what I want?
Description
Resentment is one of those emotions that can be truly destructive in relationships. It can turn into contempt, and even acrimony… which is why we want to help you address these feelings early and thoroughly. Whether you're in the middle of a big, longstanding resentment issue, or if you’re just starting to feel a little bit bubble up in your relationship, this mini-episode is a must-listen.
This week, we’re breaking down:
— The difference between incompatible wants vs. incompatible relationship structures
— How entitlement and sexual shame can fuel resentment
— The importance of clearly communicating needs and desires to your partner
— Why regular relationship check-ins are crucial for preventing resentment buildup
— How to create a relationship culture that welcomes difficult conversations
— The role of gratitude in counterbalancing resentment
— When and how to find a qualified therapist or coach who is a good match for your relationship goals and values
— Why compromise doesn't mean compromising your core self
Resources mentioned in this episode:
—AASECT (American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists): www.aasect.org
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Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions
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