168 Ethics, Responsibility, and the Changing Landscape of Non-Monogamy with Eve Rickert and Andrea Zanin
Description
Eve and Andrea created a book that I wish I had 15 years ago when I was making the transition from monogamy to non-monogamy. And I don’t say that lightly (if you know me, you know I have a LOT of polyamory books on my bookshelves).
The new edition of More Than Two is a testament to Eve and Andrea’s thoughtfulness and integrity as writers. They incorporated their evolving perspectives on ethics, relationships, and the world into their book, and the result is magical.
They cover the stuff that many authors shy away from in the non-monogamy space. Power, abuse, ethics, responsibility—even though these subjects can be loaded, they deserve ample attention, and we’re covering it all in this PWF episode.
In this episode, we’re breaking down:
— Why they decided to create a new edition “More Than Two”
— What’s covered in Andrea’s new book “Post Non-Monogamy and Beyond”
— The concept of “post-non-monogamy” and the fluidity of relational experiences
—Responsibility, ethics, and intersectionality in the non-monogamous community
— The complexities of ethical frameworks in non-monogamous relationships
— The challenges that come with negotiating attachment and boundaries
— Eve and Andrea’s take on abuse in the conscious-relating sphere
— The importance of self-awareness in maintaining ethical relationships
— The broader societal and political context of the world and how it has influenced our approaches to non-monogamy
— Thorn Apple Press, Eve’s publishing company, and its mission to elevate diverse voices in the non-monogamy community
Resources mentioned in this episode:
— More Than Two (second edition): Cultivating Nonmonogamous Relationships with Kindness and Integrity, by Eve Rickert with Andrea Zanin, out September 2024
— Post Non-Monogamy and Beyond by Andrea Zanin
— Thorn Apple Press
— Andrea Zanin's Twitter
— Eve Rickert’s website and blog
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