Everyone has insecurities of some sort. Most of the time, they stem from something that happened in childhood or perhaps from a traumatic event that occurred later in life. These insecurities can present themselves in many ways, both emotionally and physically. The American Psychological Association reports that insecurity is multifaceted. It pertains to an overall sense of uncertainty or anxiety about your worth, abilities, skills, and value as a person conveying the message that you're at...

Have you ever felt the excitement of new love? When love begins, it’s exciting, and you think about the person often. But is this genuine love, or is it infatuation? Infatuation refers to the early stages of a relationship when the adrenaline is pumping and chemicals are produced in your brain that make it exciting and euphoric. But can infatuation truly be a form of love? In the social sciences, we study love in different ways. Many models have been made of the various types of love, and...

There's a process to falling in love. At Marriage Helper, we call it the love path. Whether you knew it or not, you followed a process that led you to fall in love with your spouse. There isn't a soulmate that you are waiting to connect with, and it has nothing to do with horoscopes or the alignment of the stars and moon. But why do you love someone? There are four parts of attraction that we have labeled the PIES; physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual. The first step of falling in...

Something has changed in your marriage, but you can’t quite put your finger on it. You’re trying not to panic, but you can’t shake this feeling that your wife doesn’t love you anymore. This can be a terrible feeling, but there is hope. But first, we will share with you the three things to look for if you feel like your wife doesn’t love you anymore. Distance doesn’t always make the heart grow fonder. Having physical or emotional distance in your marriage can be one of the signs that your wife...

Has your spouse ever given you an ultimatum? Have you given your spouse one? Not all types of ultimatums can be bad. Your motive behind them is what’s important. Are you trying to control them, or are you trying to protect them or your loved ones from their destructive behavior? An ultimatum says that a specific thing needs to stop or occur in a certain time frame; otherwise, a negative consequence will be the result. People react to demands such as this differently. There are psychological...

Being controlled by anyone is terrible, but it's especially painful when the person controlling you is your wife.  How can you break free of someone who controls your thoughts, decisions, passions, and hobbies?  At Marriage Helper, we have developed an acronym called PIES to determine your physical, intellectual, emotional, and spiritual wellbeing. Then, we can use that same principle to demonstrate how control manifests in a relationship.  Regardless of its form, no control is good for a...

What do you do if you find your husband looking at other women online? You should talk to him about it if it's bothering you but the question is "how?" Join Kimberly this week as she walks through the pitfalls that can come from these types of conversations and how to approach it if it's happening in your marriage.  Mentions: Free mini-course: https://your.marriagehelper.com/how-to-get-your-spouse-back-mini-course

Most people want out of a marriage, either because they don't feel loved, don't feel liked, or don't feel respected. But what is respect? And how do you show it? In marriage, we tend to feel respected if each of us feels heard, each of us feels lovely and lovable, and each one of us feels like we're part of a partnership. Problems usually arise when one spouse treats the other like a child or tries to control the other.  That's not a partnership. That's not a good marriage. Find out how...

Are you and your wife going through a separation or becoming emotionally distant?  Are you wondering how to win your wife back? Men make three common mistakes when they feel that their wife is leaving them. From manipulation to snooping, these mistakes only wind up causing more issues.  So what’s the best option? Make you the best you can be, so it’s harder for her to leave.  Follow along as we break down the areas in your life that can make the most significant impact when you’re trying...

Have you ever, in a relationship, begun to doubt your own mind? You may have experienced gaslighting. In this episode, Dr. Joe Beam explains what is and isn't gaslighting and shares ways you can overcome it. If you're having an issue with communication in your marriage, you may want to work on SMART Contact. You can get started with the SMART Communication eBook. https://your.marriagehelper.com/smart-communication-ebook-sign-up SMART Contact Toolkit -...

When a married person looks to another most of the time, someone of the opposite sex, to fulfill an emotional need, that is emotional cheating. Going to someone else instead of their spouse and being unwilling to give up that relationship is emotional cheating. At the bottom of it, emotional cheating is when you look to someone other than your spouse to fulfill you in areas that only your spouse should fulfill you.  So, working with the definition that emotional affairs occur when a person...

You never thought you'd get to this place. Your bride, your best friend, the woman you fell in love with, has become someone you despise. Does this sound like you?  If you hate your wife and are unsure of what to do about it, you've come to the right place. I'll be talking you through some of the emotions you're probably feeling and giving you three things to do to help you process what to do next in your marriage.  Join our Certified Marriage Helper Coach Nathan as he digs into the three...

Have you been unhappy in your marriage but not sure if you're ready for divorce? Perhaps you're thinking, "I don't want to live like this, but I'm not sure I'm ready to end this thing. Maybe we need to separate for a while to see if we can figure some things out." Maybe somebody is recommending marriage separation.  If you're considering marriage separation, listen to this episode where Dr. Joe Beam shares some things to consider before choosing to repair or end your...

SMART Contact is one of the pillars of what we teach at Marriage Helper. It helps to reset the communication between you and your spouse. Often, we get so caught up in the business of life or some perceived or real hurt that's come from our spouse that we may forget that we love them and need to talk to them that way.  But how do you break out of the consistent use of the SMART Contact framework? Join our Head Coach  Melody as she talks about when to break SMART Contact. She'll remind us to...

So you're separated, but you don't want to be. What are some positive signs during separation to look for that may indicate you can put your marriage back together?  I was on a podcast recently where we talked about how difficult it can be to put a marriage back together when one spouse wants out. And that is likely where you are right now. You have a spouse who wants out for whatever reason; you're separated, divorcing, whatever it might be. The podcast hosts asked how we at Marriage Helper...

My spouse is cheating. I'm hurting and emotionally exhausted. How can I stop hurting and become emotionally healthy again? In almost every conversation I have with a client, these are the statements I hear. I have so much compassion for these clients because I know all too well how that feels.  If this is where you are emotionally, then this is for you. Some researchers say that finding out your spouse is cheating is worse than experiencing the death of someone you love. The reason is that...

What is cheating? Is it still cheating if it never becomes physical? Is there such thing as emotional cheating? The answer is yes.  Emotional cheating is real and probably happens way more than people realize. This episode will teach you what emotional cheating is, how to know if you are emotionally cheating or your spouse is emotionally cheating on you, and what to do about it. I'm also going to tell you how you can access a free guide to understanding more about emotional cheating.  How...

Often, clients will tell me that they are sure that they were in limerence with their spouse before they were married. But does that mean that the relationship with their spouse was bad from the beginning?  If you were in limerence with your spouse when you first entered a relationship together, it doesn't mean it's doomed. Your spouse being in limerence with you or with them is different from being in limerence with an affair partner or limerent object. But we'll talk more about that in a...

Do you want to divorce, but you haven't told your spouse yet? Maybe you're just waiting for the perfect moment to present it to them to where it prevents any more damage to the relationship. Or perhaps you're plotting the best way to throw it in their face because you feel fed up with their actions. You're done with the relationship, and you've likely lost any faith in the marriage coming back together. However, you are not sure how to tell your spouse you want a divorce.  Even though you...

You're in pain. You just found out your spouse is cheating on you, and you're not sure what to do. In today's episode Director of Coaching, Melody Oseguera is going to share a few tips that will be very beneficial for you to start healing your pain.  When you begin to take steps to heal, you're already improving your situation. If you want more help, we have a free mini-course on how to get your spouse to fall back in love with you. We know you're in pain. We want to encourage you today that...

If you are trying to figure out how to save your marriage from the brink of divorce, then this is the information for you.  At Marriage Helper, we have worked with 1000s upon 1000s of marriages to help situations just like yours. The majority of people who come to us are those where their spouse wants out; They want a divorce or have already filed. And we still have an incredible success rate at saving those marriages.  We have a couples workshop with a success rate of over 70% at saving...

If you want to future-proof your marriage, then this episode is essential. Whether you are newly married, about to get married, or have been married for 20 years, this episode is going to help you know how to stay married.  Now, there are no guarantees. But I will teach you tips today to improve your marriage and have a long-lasting relationship. How do we future-proof your marriage? As I said, there are no guarantees. But if anything works, this will work.  In this episode, you will...

Why do people divorce? Quite a question, isn't it? So let us walk you through what the research says. When we start talking about divorce, we can speculate all day long. If you ask people on the street, "What do you think is the biggest problem with marriage?" They will say something like communication. But when you start asking them, "What does that mean?" you begin to realize that they're talking about something other than communication.  If you look at the literature out there, you're...

Do this today before filing for a divorce. Has divorce ever crossed your mind or you’ve already broken the news to your spouse? If the answer is yes to any of these questions, watch this video first. Research shows that couples wait an average of 6 years before seeking help for their marriage. Think of that timing in terms of your relationship. How many conversations did you avoid? How many times did you scream without hearing what the other was saying? Is there a time you could have sat down...

It’s a painful feeling if you believe your husband doesn’t love you anymore. Many marriages fall into a rut or a hole where intimacy gets lost, and it just doesn’t feel like your husband is paying attention or wants to be around you anymore.  They no longer seem present in your life, and you are simply cohabitating instead of building a lasting and meaningful relationship. If you feel this way in your marriage, stay calm and try not to jump to conclusions.  People change, and so do...