Episodes
For the 183rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Mistress Colette Pervette, a professional Dominatrix of 20 years. As an Educatrix, Colette teaches the art and practice of FemDom and BDSM to women and couples. She holds a Ph.D. in Education from UC Berkeley, where her research focuses on misconceptions and conceptual change. Through her teaching and writing, she dispels misconceptions about kink, sex work, and alternative sexuality. She guides women and femmes to...
Published 11/13/24
For the 182nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Jennifer Case, author of We Are Animals: On the Nature and Politics of Motherhood.  Jennifer explains how human maternal behavior makes more sense when viewed through the lens of evolutionary biology and how these biological instincts often clash with modern societal expectations of motherhood, creating tensions that manifest in issues like maternal mental health, isolation, and lack of support. We discuss Jennifer's...
Published 11/06/24
For the 181st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes feminist writer and sexologist Suzannah Weiss, author of the new book Subjectified: Becoming a Sexual Subject. In this episode, Suzannah defines objectification and the ways it impacts women in media, language, and everyday life. We cover topics like masturbation, eating disorders, clothing-optional resorts, and sex parties. Suzannah shares her journey to reclaiming her sexual agency and encourages women to center...
Published 10/30/24
For the 180th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes author, actress, and adult film star Maitland Ward, who is best known for her role as Rachel on the 1990s TV show Boy Meets World. Maitland Ward shares her journey from Long Beach native to Hollywood up-and-comer and, eventually, adult entertainment actress, including the challenges of navigating the entertainment industry's pre-MeToo misogyny, the behind-the-scenes dynamics of Boy Meets World, and the pressures of...
Published 10/23/24
For the 179th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes adult film performer and activist Siri Dahl. In this episode, we delve into the impact of conservative anti-porn legislation, including Project 2025 and the Kids Online Safety Act, on the adult entertainment industry and sex workers. Siri offers insight into how the industry has evolved over the past decade, from the rise of platforms like OnlyFans to the increasing censorship and regulation of online adult content...
Published 10/15/24
For the 178th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Treena Orchard, anthropologist and author of Sticky, Sexy, Sad: Swipe Culture and the Darker Side of Dating Apps. In this episode, anthropologist Treena Orchard shares her experiences with online dating after turning 45 and offers insights into the complexities of modern "swipe culture." She discusses the unexpected interest from younger men, the vulnerability men face in shifting gender dynamics, the dark side of...
Published 10/09/24
For the 177th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Tami Rose, the owner of Romantic Adventures, a sex toy store in Jackson, Mississippi. Tami discusses her journey from being a chaplain's assistant in the Navy to becoming a sex toy store owner and how she has navigated running a sex-related business in a conservative state. She talks about the importance of creating a welcoming and educational environment for her customers and how she has used cheeky radio ads to...
Published 10/02/24
For the 176th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares an audio essay about aging, beauty, sexism, and why finding her first maybe-gray hair down there took her back to the Sony hack. Here's a link to Courtney's Open Secrets essay: https://opensecretsmag.substack.com/p/sony-hack-amy-pascal-gray-pubes-pubic-hair-dye And here's a link to Rachel Kramer Bussel's How to Write Erotica episode:...
Published 09/25/24
For the 175th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes actress, comedian, momfluencer, and mother of three Selah Victor. Selah Victor shares her journey to motherhood, detailing her journey through infertility, IVF, and a VBA2C (vaginal birth after two C-sections) to becoming a mother of three boys. She reflects on the physical and emotional challenges she faced during pregnancy, childbirth, and the postpartum "fourth trimester." Selah discusses the unique advantages of...
Published 09/18/24
For the 174th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Laura Boyle, author of Monogamy? In this Economy?: Finances, Childrearing, and Other Practical Concerns of Polyamory. In this interview, Laura Boyle shares her personal journey into polyamory, which began at age 19, and how she later became a relationship coach and educator on the topic. The conversation delves into the practical aspects of polyamorous relationships, including managing finances, child-rearing, and...
Published 09/11/24
For the 173rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Emma Koenig, the author & editor of Moan: Anonymous Essays on Female Orgasm. Emma shares how her popular Tumblr, How to Make Me Come, evolved into a powerful book that explores the diverse and often misunderstood experiences of female pleasure. We discuss how sexuality is shamed and stigmatized, the need for better sex education, and the importance of open communication in the bedroom. Emma also offers insights...
Published 09/04/24
For the 172nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Susan Shapiro, author of The Forgiveness Tour: How to Find the Perfect Apology. In this episode, Susan Shapiro delves into her personal experience of betrayal by a close confidant who didn't apologize after the fact, sparking her journey to unravel the complexities of forgiveness and apologies, which can make or break our relationships. Susan shares insights from her research, including the four key elements of an...
Published 08/28/24
For the 171st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Naked News anchor Eila Adams. Eila Adams grew up in a small town before making her way to Toronto, where she became the longest-running anchor on Naked News. She’s the host of the channel’s popular workout segment, Flex Appeal, and co-host of their sex and relationship show, The Bare Naked Truth. In addition to her work with Naked News, Eila is a full-time adult content creator and was recently featured as a Hustle...
Published 08/21/24
For the 170th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak celebrates her fourth anniversary on OnlyFans with a reflection on what inspired her to start her Coco Peep Show account, what she's learned from her time on the platform (regarding age, boundaries, body image, and more), her favorite and least favorite aspects (including photo shoots, dick reviews, and piracy), plus an accounting of how much money she's made. For links related to this episode: Psst, Courtney has an...
Published 08/14/24
For the 169th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes podcaster, musician, and writer Ashley Hamer for a candid discussion on motherhood. This is the first episode in an ongoing series as Courtney contemplates having a kid. For many years, Ashley Hamer was steadfast in her childfree vision for her future, but now she's a soon-to-be mother of two. In this episode, Ashley opens up about her change of heart and shares her personal experiences with pregnancy, childbirth,...
Published 08/07/24
For the 168th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dominic Ford, the CEO of JustFor.Fans. Over his 17-year career, Dominic has been a trailblazer in the porn industry, starting with a 3D porn studio and now leading one of the most popular fan platforms. And as a computer scientist, he programmed all of JustFor.Fans himself. He's also been on-camera talent and is a dedicated anti-piracy crusader. He's done it all, so it's no surprise he won Businessman of the Year at...
Published 07/31/24
For the 167th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak shares the story of a mindblowing happy ending massage she got in Tokyo, Japan, that completely changed her perspective on sex and pleasure.  In October 2022, Courtney wrote all about it for Cosmo and then included it as an audio essay in episode 103 with more from our Tokyo, Japan series. In the midst of a hot and sexy summer, we're dropping this audio essay on the feed as a standalone quickie. Enjoy! Here are links to the...
Published 07/24/24
For the 166th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes mature OnlyFans model Rae Richmond, aka “the MILF next door,” aka “the Midlife MILF.” In today’s episode, we discuss how Rae went from corporate life to becoming a self-made porn star, including her previous marriages, getting sober, and meeting a younger man who encouraged her to start an OnlyFans account at age 56. Like many sex workers and adult entertainers, this woman is the ultimate entrepreneur, and she even...
Published 07/17/24
For the 165th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cameron Dezen Hammon, author of This Is My Body: A Memoir of Religious and Romantic Obsession. In today’s episode, we discuss her personal journey of religion and repression, how frightening it was to have HPV pre-vaccine, her post-divorce sexual awakening (which included kink and non-monogamy), STI stigma, and motherhood. For more from today's guest, Cameron Dezen Hammon: Follow Cameron on Instagram...
Published 07/10/24
For the 164th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Hannah Sward, author of Strip: A Memoir. Hannah opens up about her unconventional childhood, including being abandoned by her mother, living with her poet father, experiencing sexual abuse as a child, and (of course) a stint on a commune. She also shares her entry into sex work, first as a call girl and then as a stripper, working alongside her sister, why she started using crystal meth, and how she finally got sober...
Published 07/03/24
For the 163rd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Alex Alberto, author of Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. For the final installment of this year's Pride programming, this interview covers Alex's exploration of polyamory, how their identities as a genderqueer and pansexual person gave them a unique angle in writing about non-monogamy, the importance of queer narratives, the process of writing and publishing the book, their journey toward asexuality,...
Published 06/26/24
For the 162nd episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Eagle LA co-owner Charlie Matula and his husband, Hunter Fox. Courtney interviewed Charlie and Hunter for a KCRW radio story entitled "Happily leather after at The Eagle in Silver Lake", which originally aired in June 2019 for Pride. The Eagle LA is a leather/Levi's bar in the Silver Lake neighborhood of Los Angeles, California. In this interview, we delve into the rich history of this beloved establishment and its...
Published 06/19/24
For the 161st episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey for the second episode in our special month of Pride programming. Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey is a clinical psychologist, sex/intimacy coach, author, speaker, and podcast host based in London. With more than 30 years of helping people create and sustain meaningful and exciting relationships, Dr. Bisbey specializes in GSRD (gender, sexuality, relationship diversity), is consensual non-monogamy and...
Published 06/12/24
For the 160th episode of Private Parts Unknown, host Courtney Kocak welcomes Cody Daigle-Orians, the influencer behind Ace Dad Advice and author of I Am Ace, to discuss the underrepresentation of asexuality in popular culture. It's Pride Month, and there's lots of rightful celebration for the LGBTIA community, but rarely mention of the acronym's A. In fact, asexuality is so underrepresented in culture that it can be hard to self-identify. Cody Daigle-Orians didn't realize they were asexual...
Published 06/05/24