This week on the RL Radio Podcast - we talk about a place a lot of women find themselves in: doing her recovery work AND his recovery work at the same time. While this might “work” for a while, at some point - she will be exhausted, worn out, and a shell of herself. So what does it look like for her to drop the rope if he isn’t doing the work? And one note: dropping the rope and dropping the hammer are two different things. Jason got confused, thought they were one in the same - but they are NOT. We also talk about control and how Jason accused me of being controlling (which is what he accused me of when I so badly wanted our marriage to go in a different direction and yet he was in the thick of his addiction). The three to four things she can work on as she is moving toward dropping the rope: consistent and quality emotional support  financial stability or at a place where the finances can be surrendered working toward getting stronger and healing from within holding onto hope - see Hebrews 6:19 and Proverbs 13:12 Ultimately, she is going to get clarity by dropping the rope and THEN she can decide how she wants to move forward. We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!   If you want to see examples of the T-30 Journal + a check-in (FITNAP) from Worthy of Her Trust and Rescued, respectively, you can click here and subscribe to the podcast downloads.  You will get an email with ALL the podcast downloads we have offered to date! Click here to get on the Empowered Boundaries Wait List - we will be starting the next class in May, registration OPENS on Saturday, April 22nd.  Would love for you to join me! Would love to connect with you on Instagram - @shelley_martinkus. We offer 1:1 coaching, couples recovery coaching, support groups, MasterClasses and on-line courses - check out our websites: redemptiveliving.com and rlforwomen.com for the full scoop! Click here to subscribe to Shelley’s {almost} monthly letter + announcements. Click here to subscribe to Jason’s list. Questions for the Podcast? Email us with the subject line: Podcast.