To avoid an affair you must want to avoid it. The problem is immature people who are still sowing their wild oats or waddling in past pains, don't care when they want, what they want. These types of people have unhealthy mindsets, that causes them to make bad choices and decisions. It causes them the lack, void, etc., inside, which leads to dysfunctional lives. Many people don't try to avoid it, they go full throttle ahead, without thinking of the risks or anything else. Mature people do not think or act that way. It takes a lot to get to a mentally mature level. It changes your life! To become a better person you must choose to become a better person. You'll never get to that level by remaining the same and still being led by your flesh.  Most of all, I recommend Jesus. He can and will tranform you and your life! Become a supporter of this podcast: https://www.spreaker.com/podcast/relationship-chronicles--4126439/support.