I’ve said over and over that the secret to a life filled with connection, ease and joy is to create and hold boundaries. And there’s one big thing that generally gets in the way of holding those boundaries: having a victim mentality. In my almost 40 years of experience, working with thousands of people, this is an issue with almost every person I meet. Sometimes it’s a big issue, and sometimes it’s smaller, but it’s almost always there in some way. The problem is that this way of thinking seems so natural or right that you likely don’t even realize you’re doing it! You’re a fish who doesn’t know it’s wet! Today we’ll discuss the symptoms of a victim mentality (many will likely surprise you), why you might be this way and, as always, my top 7 tips for making lasting changes so you can create fulfilling, loving relationships.  ____________________________ Full blog and show notes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-1-reason-why-you-dont-hold-your-boundaries 👉 Pick up a copy of my new book to master creating and holding healthy, loving boundaries.  Boundaries Made Easy: Your Roadmap to Connection, Ease and Joy is now available on Amazon. Purchase the hardcopy, eBook, or audiobook today! https://abbymedcalf.com/boundaries 👉 Grab my FREE Mindfulness Starter Kit: https://abbymedcalf.com/product/mindfulness-starter-kit  ____________________________ Want to feel happier and more connected in your relationship? Buy my #1 bestselling book on Amazon, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedcalf.com/book Looking for past episodes of the Relationships Made Easy Podcast? Head over to https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast and https://abbymedcalf.com/podcast-the-archives where you’ll find every single episode. Subscribe today to get my love letter to you! This biweekly reminder will keep you on the path to creating connected, happy relationships (especially the one with yourself!). https://abbymedcalf.com/ For more quick tips, subscribe to my YouTube channel: https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube  Ready to dig deeper? Take one of my online courses (some are FREE!) or grab a workbook: https://abbymedcalf.com/shop  A great idea to stay motivated and keep your head in a positive direction is to buy some of my fabulous, inspirational merchandise. Get yourself a t-shirt, mug, tote bag or notebook with that daily reminder that you’ve got this! https://abbymedcalf.com/shop Say hello on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/abbymedcalf  Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/abbymedcalfthriving  LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/abbymedcalfthriving  YouTube:  https://abbymedcalf.com/youtube