Fiji and Autumn check in this week with our 50th EPISODE and new look!!!, burnout from work, and insomnia. Next, we dive into this week’s topic: the dating emotionally unavailable men to sprinkle sprinkle pipeline, Shera Seven, and Bell Hook’s The Will To Change: Men, Masculinity, and Love. What do women care about more in a relationship with a man: his ability to emotionally open up and connect or his ability to provide? Why are women demanding that men pay more? Why can’t men open up emotionalyl? Is Shera Seven feminist? Is she just funny? Why does dating feel like a game? We’re talking: men’s frustrations with women wanting them to provide, the sprinkle sprinkle connections to sex work, women’s exhaustion with dating, how patriarchy socializes men to disconnect from their emotions, women’s beauty expenses, dates as reparations, interracial relationships, playing a role to get a man, online gender wars, the gamification of dating, financial advice vs dating advice, toxic TikTok dating advice, white feminism, mindfulness in algorithms, listener polls, listener stories, and more!👀 Join our community of confused pussies💦🌵  Intro 00:00:00 - 00:02:00 What’s got us s0 wet and s0 dry this week 00:02:00 -00:05:40 Setting the stage: what are the debates? 00:05:40 - 00:07:14 The dating emotionally unavailable men to sprinkle sprinkle pipeline 00:07:14 - 00:12:49 How patriarchy disconnects men from their own emotions 00:12:49- 00:18:32 What do women care about more in a relationship with a man: his ability to emotionally open up and connect or his ability to provide? 00:18:32 - 00:21:16 Why are women demanding that men pay more? 00:21:16 - 00:26:16 Should men pay for dates as reparations? 00:26:16 - 00:33:22 Shera Seven aka the sprinkle sprinkle lady and her ideologies 00:33:22 - 00:35:37 Responses to the sprinkle sprinkle lady aka Shera Seven 00:35:37 - 00:49:03 How using the sprinkle sprinkle method feels too much like playing a role and the connections to sex work 00:49:03 - 00:54:27 How shera seven markets to black women and her connections to the soft life 00:54:27 - 01:03:38 How TikTok dating advice is toxic and inherently anti-sex work 01:03:38 - 01:12:04 Is Shera Seven the female Andrew Tate? 01:12:04- 01:19:17 Is Shera Seven feminist? 01:19:17 - 01:40:09 How men are feeling financial pressures from women in romantic relationships? 01:40:09 - 01:42:13 How men feel about the sprinkle sprinkle ideology 01:42:13 - 01:55:25 How should finances be split on dates and in relationships? 01:55:25 - 01:59:28 How women reinforce patriarchy and how men can confront their emotional disconnect 01:59:28 - 02:07:36 Listener Stories 02:07:36 - 02:11:35 What’s got us wet, dry, and confused about the topic (wrap up) 02:11:35 - 02:23:57 Sources in youtube description (they wouldn't fit here): https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC0ULc4c0eCWpKfkT5S47vnw follow us on instagram, twitter, youtube, and tiktok @s0wets0dry the s0 wet s0 dry team:  Autumn (host, editor)  instagram: @autumnkaira  twitter: @autumnkaira  tiktok: @autumnkaira  Fiji (host, editor)  instagram: @s0wet  twitter: @s0wet  tiktok: @fijithesiren  youtube: @s0wet  Mylao (Graphic Designer, and Artist) instagram: @xlaomedia  email: [email protected]  A.I.R. (Music Producer)  instagram: @airgoincrazy --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/message Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/s0wets0dry/support