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Assalamu alaykum dear friend!
So. This guy. Weâll call him Yahya.
He was a family friend.Â
He was (is?) a few years older than me.
Our parents had known each other from way back.
Fast forward to when I was a teenager, Yahya and I thought we were going to get married one day. #Lolz.
It didnât work out đ
alhamdulillah!!
Fast forward another few years, I got married to my best friend and husband (who some of you have come to know through my writing as Mr. A).
That was when Yahyaâs mum gave me the most beautiful wedding gift.
The gift from his mum was a beautiful, royal blue rug. Turkish style. High quality. Very tush-looking. Soft and lush type.
Youâll know itâs not anyoneâs level when you see it, lol.
The kinda rug youâd want in your home, basically.
I loved it (not because it was from Yahyaâs mum, of course, but because it was super cute and super high quality).
The thing about maybe 80% of my wedding gifts is⌠I never got to use them because I left my home country the day after I got married, on a 7-hour flight to a whole other continent.
I wasnât about to cargo stuff over to this other continent because 1) hello stress; 2) hello small space; and 3) I had most of what I needed already so our home was furnished and comfortable. Alhamdulillah.
Anyway. That rug.
I wanted it in my home someday. It was heavy and weirdly shaped (when folded) so it was tricky to travel with it hassle-free.
Fast forward to 8 years after our wedding (and after another big move to a whole other continent), my rug came home to me.
When we moved to this new continent, I had a âguest roomâ in the basement that needed a rug, and I wasnât ready to buy a new rug⌠so my beautiful rug from Yahyaâs mum ended up there.
That room is the one room I hardly ever use, but alhamdulillah the rug serves a purpose there.
Now⌠guess whoâs planning to move far away (again) and simply canât take the rug along? Yup.
Iâve had the rug for only two years, and itâs already time to say goodbye.
Hopefully itâs a temporary goodbye, but who knows?
Iâm sure youâre wondering why Iâm telling you about Yahya, his mum, and the rug đ
Please hang in there. Thereâs a 3-part lesson I want to unpack.
Lesson 1: If itâs meant for you, Allah will make it find its way to you.
I didnât have to have Yahya in my life to get something beautiful from his mum đ
I didnât have to be a special character in his mumâs life to get something beautiful from her.
It was meant for me, alhamdulillah â and despite my (dramatic) goodbye to her son; despite my globe trotting adventures⌠Allah made the rug find itâs way to me through his mum.
Your attachment and connection and hope should be in Allah alone, and not in things and people and places.
Lesson 2: Your rizq is written. Relax.
I didnât think Iâd only use the rug for 2 out of my 10 years of being married so far, but perhaps thatâs what Allah wanted for me.
Maybe Iâll reunite with the rug again, maybe I wonât. And thatâs ok.
Even though it was my gift and I loved it, and even though it was in my house, I wasnât the one who used it day to day.
Maybe thatâs the extent of what was written for me, maybe not. And thatâs ok.
There will be times when the one thing you waited so long for will come so close, right in front of your eyesâŚ
Youâll try to grab it and hold on to it, but it wonât stay in your hands.
And thatâs ok, especially if youâve done your part and done it well.
Which brings me to the next lesson.
Lesson 3: Do your part
I could have done things differently to have my rug with me from day 1, but it was never that deep.
In your case, if the thing you want so badly is that deep, my gentle and loving question to you is⌠Have you done your part? Have you done enough?
Sometimes we get sad because âbut the rizq isnât comingâ⌠well *hugs* but what have you done to get it?
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