CW: Mentions of sexual assault  This week Holly & Jenna explain what you might expect when going to get STI tests and share some of their own horror stories of going to do so. Jenna shares a Shit People Say interaction with someone who thinks she is running a sting operation, and a listener sends in a thoughtful and nuanced question about how we can best support providers when they are going through a horrible time.  1:19: Main Segment: Sexual health gaps in the medical system  51:46:...

Mr Love is Jenna’s husband and primary partner of 13 years. He’s also our sound engineer, and probably would’ve preferred to keep it that way, but Jenna & Holly somehow managed to convince him to make a guest appearance on the show, so here he is!  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in...

Today Holly and Jenna are giving  their uncensored opinions on the Australian Broadcasting Corporation 's (ABC) Compass TV Special 'Nude Next Door', while hoping they don't get sued. Nude Next Door featured our very own Jenna Love, along with Billie Beever,  Coralea Jade,  Billie Peques, and Phoebe Thompson.  Watch the doco here (You'll need a VPN if you're not in Australia):  https://iview.abc.net.au/show/nude-next-door Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter:...

TW: Trauma (obviously), and sexual trauma Don't worry, we're not about to trauma dump on y'all. We're discussing the narrative of "xx% of sex workers have experienced childhood trauma" which is apparently supposed to be an argument against decriminalisation? Or human rights for sex workers? We're not entirely sure, tbh, but we're tackling it in this episode. We answer a question about whether we get nervous when meeting new clients, and we've got a short, but hopeful, Shit People Say for...

It’s the threesome episode! We talk about both the emotional and physical things you might want to consider before jumping into group sex… including boundaries, safer sex, and voyeurism. And for Shit People Say Jenna shares some insights from clients on the subtleties of her screening process.    Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook:...

It’s the jealousy episode! Do we get jealous of each other? Of other providers? Does Mr Love get jealous about Jenna’s clients? We talk about jealousy in the world of non-monogamy, answer a question about naked spooning mechanics, and hear from someone who simply cannot NOT give their uninformed opinion on sex work.  1:11 Main Segment: Jealousy  36:05 Misconception: Polyamorous people don’t experience jealousy  45:07 Question of the week: How to spoon?? 50:30 Shit People Say “I simply...

As promised, here is the little bonus clip for this week. which is a short interview with an Asian migrant sex worker based in Queensland Support the show

Jenna is joined this week by Janelle and Carly from Decrim QLD, a committee of sex workers who have joined with Respect Inc., to progress the removal of harmful and discriminatory sex work laws and achieve decriminalisation in Queensland. They talk about the current QLRC Review, what needs to change, and what we're afraid may not change. Decrim QLD website: https://respectqld.org.au/decriminalise-sex-work/ Decrim QLD Twitter: https://twitter.com/DecrimQLD Decrim QLD Instagram:...

Too many messages, obsessions with chairs, filthy tongues & poopy bums: today Holly & Jenna are sharing some of the reasons they have had to “fire” their clients.  TW: Non-consensual sexual activity, boundary pushing  6:14 Main segment: Clients behaving badly Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody...

Prompted by a patron question, Holly & Jenna discuss where the line is between sex work and therapy, what’s appropriate to discuss with a sex worker, and how to broach the tough topics. The misconception this week is that oral sex is safe sex and for Shit People Say Jenna shares one of the more amusing (and lucrative?) interactions she’s had in a long time!  The Satisfaction Project episode ‘Sex work or therapy?’:...

Unfortunately the audio for this episode is not great, we’re sorry!  Turned On is a series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. In this episode, they are reacting to ‘Louis and the Brothel’, Louis Theroux’s 2003 documentary where he visits a Nevada brothel.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook:...

Jenna is our special guest today! Holly interviews her about how she organises tours around the country. They talk about the misconception that sex workers can’t say no to particular clients and/or services. Holly shares a classic Shit People Say, and they discuss trends over time in sex work requests and services, like choking, golden showers, rimming, pegging, and cuddling!  CHAPTERS 2:27 Main Segment: SYL is a touring escort 36:05 Misconception: That SWers can’t say no  41:38 Shit People...

Kaytlin Bailey is a contrarian by nature and a provocateur by trade. She is an internationally touring stand-up comic, sex worker rights advocate and writer. In 2020 she founded Old Pros where she continues her stubborn crusade against whorephobia and today she is talking to Holly & Jenna about why the history of sex work matters, who her favourite old pros are, and some of the complexities of advocacy and exploitation. Old Pros: https://oldprosonline.org/ 3:11 Kaytlin’s origin...

Turned On is a new series in which Holly & Jenna react to different representations of sex work in media. For this first episode, they are reacting to Jubilee’s YouTube video ‘6 Sex Workers vs 1 Secret Virgin’ from their Odd One Out series.  Watch the video first: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eKVGUfbDP2g Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook:...

Welcome to season 3! To kick things off, Holly & Jenna are joined by Deaf full service sex worker and owner of Sydney's Sky Sirens, Katia Schwartz, her creative surrogate, Auslan qualified interpreter and sex worker Dahlia Day, and Auslan interpreter Amanda. This special episode is available in both audio and video formats, with the video including Auslan interpretation and captions, and the audio being accompanied by a transcript (see below).  Watch the video here:...

This week we are again bringing you an episode of Georgie Wolf’s podcast The Satisfaction Project while Holly, Mr Love, and I enjoy a break between seasons 2 and 3 of Somebody You Love. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers. The episode we are sharing with you today is called Everyday Activism with Holly Harte and yep, that’s our girl Holly chatting to Georgie about practical sex work activism -...

While we are taking a much needed break between seasons, we wanted to share with you some episodes from our dear friend Georgie Wolf’s podcast, The Satisfaction Project. The Satisfaction Project is your ultimate resource for enjoyable experiences with escorts and other independent, hands-on sex workers. You may remember Georgie from episode 23 - Somebody You Love is a Satisfaction Expert. Georgie has given us permission to share the very first episode of her podcast, titled Mythbusting with...

It’s the season 2 finale! Join us while we ponder some big questions while trying not to get canceled… why do people cheat? And why do they do it with sex workers? Do we judge our clients who are cheating? Do we take responsibility for helping to facilitate it?  1:53 Question of the week: Why do married men seek out sex workers?  44:43 Misconception: Most of our clients are married men 51:28 Awesome Shit People Say: “Ladies of the night”   Patreon (from $3AUD/month):...

We put a shout-out on Patreon to ask if anyone who is a client of the sex industry would like to come on the show, and thus this episode was born! Maria and Steve join us to speak candidly about their reasons for visiting sex workers, how their first experiences went, and the impact it has had on their lives.  2:52: Maria 31:06: Steve Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody...

TW: Assault of a SWer  The first episode of our Just The Tips series designed for sex workers! Jenna & Holly break down what they did wrong so you don’t make the same mistakes! Is being an independent escort right for you? What is involved in running your own escorting business? Where can you go for information? How do you pick your name? Do you need to get professional photos? Do you need a separate email? Phone number? Social media accounts?  Patreon (from $3AUD/month):...

Darian Rye is a male escort for women and couples, based in Canberra, Australia. He entered the adult industry in 2016, and since then has grown a successful business in keeping women company. We talk about what female clients are looking for, maintaining boundaries, and Darian hides in a closet. Literally.  1:27 Main Segment: Darian's origin story, what women want, misconceptions 31:56 Patron questions: Advice for first-timers, funny stories, dogs or cats?  Instagram:...

TW: Sex trafficking, Eating disorders Today we are looking at an absurd document released earlier this year by AUSTRAC. For Shit People Say, Jenna and Holly both go on rants about supposed “compliments”, our Misconception is that sex work is easy, and the Question of the Week is a doozy (TW: ED for the Question)  1:49 Main Segment: AUSTRAC’s Guide to Detecting and Stopping Forced Sexual Servitude 29:05 Shit People Say: “Learn to take a compliment”  46:25 Misconception: Sex work is easy, a...

Isabella Martin is a proud “fatgirl” and the creator of the the BBW Badgirl Podcast. She is a Mexican/Irish super-size BBW sexworker based out of Los Angeles, CA. Over the last 10+ years she has worked multiple facets of sexwork: in person as an escort and dominatrix, as well as, pre-pandemic virtual work including phone sex, cam girl and most recently content creating on platforms like Onlyfans.  1:26 Main Segment: Sex work as a supersize BBW 32:05 Patron questions: Guns, body positivity,...

Happy International Sex Worker Rights Day! Why do many sex workers hide or blur their faces? Spoiler alert: It’s not because they are ugly. We’re talking today about all of the negative consequences faced by those of us who show our faces in our advertising. And Jenna shares an in-person Shit People Say experience.  Main Segment: 2:40  Why the USA won’t let us in Shit People Say: 43:56 "No, you're a man" Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram:...

It’s time to tell the rest of the embarrassing work stories our peers submitted anonymously - so might not be the best time to eat your lunch if you’re squeamish! In awesome news, Susan Sarandon posted about being pro-sex work. In bad news, that brought the SWERFs out to play. In okay news, that meant we had some content for Shit People Say this week.  Main Segment: 1:39 Anonymous story time Shit People Say: 31:27 “If you can’t service your father it isn’t a job” Patreon (from...