How do I ask how recently they were tested for STIs? How do I ask for us to do something different this time? What if I get down there and it smells really bad? Holly & Jenna give you tips on how to tackle tricky topics and sticky subjects. They also answer the listener question “Is there room for older ladies to succeed in SW?” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod MERCH: http://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Instagram:...

In part three of this series (make sure you’ve listened to parts 1 & 2 if you’re new or thinking about joining the industry!), we’re talking about the actual booking - how do you keep time, how to set up for and run a booking, how to do health checks, tips for building assertiveness, and what mental self care is necessary in this job.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter:...

In part two of this series, we are moving more into the logistics of the job itself. Holly and Jenna talk about advertising & advertising platforms, dealing with time wasters, screening, getting deposits, and supplying invoices.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod Somebody You Love is sponsored by Assembly Four,...

Michael (he/him), and Louise (she/her) both lost their “virginity” to sex workers and they’ve both agreed to share their stories on the show! *Virginity is a social construct, but we talk about that more in the episode.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the...

Yep, this week we are mining reddit for content. We read out the SW-related stories of contributors to /r/AITA and decide if we think: NTA (not the arsehole)YTA (you are the arsehole)NAH (no arseholes here)ESH (everyone sucks here) Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in Australia, please...

Get your jazz hands ready, we’re doing musicals!  Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463e Songlist:  1. I Dreamed a Dream (Les Miserables, 1980)  2. Lovely Ladies (Les Miserables, 1980) 3. The Movie in my Mind (Miss Saigon, 1989) 4. The Transaction (Miss Saigon, 1989) 5. No One Knows Who I Am (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 6. Bring on the Men (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 7. Someone Like You (Jekyll & Hyde, 1990) 8. Out Tonight (RENT,...

Spotify playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/41U6nuxshQciTYfLLnIsfb?si=a50dc606af40463e Mandatory article: https://www.mandatory.com/culture/1066689-the-10-best-songs-about-prostitutes Song list:  1. Call Me (Blondie, 1980) 2. What Would You Do (City High, 1999) 3. Sweetest Girl (Wyclef Jean, 2007) 4. Slut Money  (ZAND, 2020)  5. The A Team (Ed Sheeran, 2011) 6. None of Your Business (Salt-N-Pepa, 1993) 7. Sugar Daddy (Qveen Herby, 2020)  8. Lady Marmalade (Labelle, 1974) and then by...

TW: Shit People Say mentions sexual assault Meet Charlie Bear, a trans, non-binary sex worker based in Melbourne, on Wurundjeri land. They were assigned female at birth, but currently live in a body that falls between female and male, and use they/them pronouns. They see clients of all genders, and are on the show today to talk about the gender binary, the SWERF 'n' TERF lunch special, and both the privileges and pressures that come with being an 'out' non-binary sex worker.  Charlie’s...

Holly spreads the festive fun while Jenna tries to maintain her strong boundaries around frivolity.  CHAPTERS 04:32: Sexy Gift Giving Guide 2023 20:50: Porno or not-porno? 26:30: Holiday traditions 50:17: New Years Booking Wishlists LINKS Pipedream Fantasy for her – Her ultimate pleasure: https://www.randyfox.com.au/fantasy-for-her-her-ultimate-pleasure-licking-sucking-pleasure-pump.html Alliance Ultra Plush MIcrofibre Pillow:...

Season 4 is here and we’re finally tackling the minefield of a topic that is male escorts! 01:00 Main Segment: The Problem with Male Escorts 57:25 Shit People Say: “you're definitely not seeing clients in the family home” Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Merch: https://www.somebodyyoulove.net/store Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on...

CW: Deaths of peers 54:29 - 1:00:00 For our final episode of season 3 we’re filling you in on what has happened in the world of Holly & Jenna (and Mr Love) over the last two years of Somebody You Love. What’s changed, what hasn’t, and what’s to come. And we answer a listener question on the topic of sex worker ethics  Bella Green’s book ‘Happy Endings’: https://www.booktopia.com.au/happy-endings-bella-green/book/9781760982768.html ‘The’ Buzzfeed video:...

CW: Weight loss, fatphobia Holly & Jenna interview Lex Leigh - a nerdy gamer girl who has worked in the adult industry her entire adult life, including online and in person, and over the last few years has lost a total of 50kgs. She shares with us her reasons for wanting to lose weight, the physical and mental toll it has taken on her, and the reactions of clients/fans and her peers. Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter:...

CW: SW slurs Why don't we like to be called "prostitutes"? When did this start and what are the alternatives? What is the harm in using slurs? What are the common arguments people use to continue saying the p-word? We know we've said we don't like the word on our show, but we've not gone into depth and we've received a few questions about it, so here's a whole hour dedicated to this gross word (that SWers are welcome to reclaim if they wish)! Instagram:...

Charlie has many years experience in different areas of the industry, having started initially in Aotearoa (New Zealand) doing online work as well as full service. He is currently the Male Project Worker at SWOP NSW and he joins us today to talk to us about how and where M4M sex work takes place, hookup culture and opportunistic work, resources and access to community, and safer sex practises.  1:52: Main segment 41:07: Shit People Say  Instagram:...

Sophie is renowned for being the only German trans mistress in Australia and she recently announced her intentions to retire from SW this year, due to the negative experiences she has encountered as a trans person within the industry. We’ve had gender diverse people on the show before, but thus far we haven't delved into the challenges unique to this community, so we invited Sophie on the show to share her perspective. Meaningful Work: Transgender Experiences in the Sex Trade:...

Jenna managed to convince her mum to be on the show, and here she is - giving us the full, honest lowdown on what it’s like to have your daughter tell you she’s a sex worker.  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod   For more info on sex work in Australia, please check out the following organisations:  Scarlet Alliance:...

CW: Mentions of sexual assault  This week Holly & Jenna explain what you might expect when going to get STI tests and share some of their own horror stories of going to do so. Jenna shares a Shit People Say interaction with someone who thinks she is running a sting operation, and a listener sends in a thoughtful and nuanced question about how we can best support providers when they are going through a horrible time.  1:19: Main Segment: Sexual health gaps in the medical system  51:46:...

Mr Love is Jenna’s husband and primary partner of 13 years. He’s also our sound engineer, and probably would’ve preferred to keep it that way, but Jenna & Holly somehow managed to convince him to make a guest appearance on the show, so here he is!  Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook: http://www.facebook.com/somebodyyoupod For more info on sex work in...

Today Holly and Jenna are giving  their uncensored opinions on the Australian Broadcasting Corporation 's (ABC) Compass TV Special 'Nude Next Door', while hoping they don't get sued. Nude Next Door featured our very own Jenna Love, along with Billie Beever,  Coralea Jade,  Billie Peques, and Phoebe Thompson.  Watch the doco here (You'll need a VPN if you're not in Australia):  https://iview.abc.net.au/show/nude-next-door Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter:...

TW: Trauma (obviously), and sexual trauma Don't worry, we're not about to trauma dump on y'all. We're discussing the narrative of "xx% of sex workers have experienced childhood trauma" which is apparently supposed to be an argument against decriminalisation? Or human rights for sex workers? We're not entirely sure, tbh, but we're tackling it in this episode. We answer a question about whether we get nervous when meeting new clients, and we've got a short, but hopeful, Shit People Say for...

It’s the threesome episode! We talk about both the emotional and physical things you might want to consider before jumping into group sex… including boundaries, safer sex, and voyeurism. And for Shit People Say Jenna shares some insights from clients on the subtleties of her screening process.    Patreon (from $3AUD/month): http://www.patreon.com/somebodyyoupod Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/somebodyyoupod Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/somebodyyoupod Facebook:...

It’s the jealousy episode! Do we get jealous of each other? Of other providers? Does Mr Love get jealous about Jenna’s clients? We talk about jealousy in the world of non-monogamy, answer a question about naked spooning mechanics, and hear from someone who simply cannot NOT give their uninformed opinion on sex work.  1:11 Main Segment: Jealousy  36:05 Misconception: Polyamorous people don’t experience jealousy  45:07 Question of the week: How to spoon?? 50:30 Shit People Say “I simply...

As promised, here is the little bonus clip for this week. which is a short interview with an Asian migrant sex worker based in Queensland Support the show

Jenna is joined this week by Janelle and Carly from Decrim QLD, a committee of sex workers who have joined with Respect Inc., to progress the removal of harmful and discriminatory sex work laws and achieve decriminalisation in Queensland. They talk about the current QLRC Review, what needs to change, and what we're afraid may not change. Decrim QLD website: https://respectqld.org.au/decriminalise-sex-work/ Decrim QLD Twitter: https://twitter.com/DecrimQLD Decrim QLD Instagram:...