If you’re considering exploring a friends with benefits relationship while you look for your forever person, or if you’re already in one, this episode is for you! WHAT YOU”LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:Six questions to ask yourself to gain clarity around if having a friends with benefits will serve your dating experience.A client example of how to intentionally create a friends with benefits agreement.My experience and what I would do differently next time.What I think are the two most important...

Feeling lonely feels crappy. And a lot of us have feelings of loneliness come up for us, especially when we’re dating and wanting to find our person. I sure did! In this episode we’re talking about why we feel lonely and how we can feel less lonely as we are looking to find our person to share life with. WHAT YOUR LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:Five tools/mindsets/exercises to help you reduce the volume and frequency of the thoughts causing you to feel lonely.The biggest culprit of our...

Ready to learn proven strategies for dialing down the perfectionist voice in your head? This episode is for you! We’re going over four tools you can implement immediately to tame and manage that perfectionist voice that blocks you from finding your person! MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear, by Elizabeth GilbertSelf-Compassion: The Proven Power of Being Kind to Yourself by Dr. Kristen NeffFinish: Give Yourself the Gift of Being Done, by Jon AcuffMindset: The New...

We’re looking at ALL the ways perfectionism is talking to you in your head, and blocking you from dating and finding your person. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODEHow perfectionism has you totally dissatisfied with the current state of datingHow it gets you in the compare and despair loopHow it has you putting off dating or taking breaks from datingHow perfectionism convinces you not to try things you don’t already feel good atHow it persuades you to put dating off until tomorrow, Monday or...

Did you know you can create boundaries simply because you want to have as much as possible of what you want in your life? Comfort. Peace. Serenity. Safety. Closeness. Calmness. You can make sure you are taken care of instead of leaving it up to other people in your life. You can have boundaries to create whatever you prefer for yourself simply because you prefer it! Learning to set and uphold your boundaries are a gift to yourself! WHAT YOU’LL LEARN IN THIS EPISODEWhat boundaries are and what...

In this fun quick episode I’m giving you my top 10 pieces of dating advice. These 10 things are what 99% most of my clients are shifting and evolving for themselves. Curious which ones you can focus on shifting and evolving of yourself? Have a listen and let me know! :) WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:The eight things you need to start doing to find your personThe two things you need to stop doingHow your mindset is the key to getting the relationship you want   Loved the podcast and want...

What if you trusted YOURSELF to treat YOURSELF like a best friend even when you messed up or did something embarrassing? When you did something cringe worthy, instead of beating yourself up in our head and tearing yourself down - you were kind and loving to yourself like you’d be to a kid? I bet you’d take a lot more risks dating and have a better time! This week’s episode is all about having our own backs while we’re out there finding love and risking getting hurt. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM...

Your future self is where you want to be - sharing your fabulous life with YOUR person. And guess what - she’s got SO much she wants to tell you. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:How to tap into the wisdom of your future selfSpecific questions to ask herHow building your relationship with your future self can improve your relationship with yourself nowHow connecting with her gets you focused on what’s possible, versus stuck defining yourself from your pastI share what I would want to tell...

If you’re not dating, taking a break from dating, or hating dating because all those terrible crappy uncomfortable feelings dating brings up in us - this episode is for you! WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:How avoiding, resisting and reacting to our feelings causes us more problems than the feelings themselvesThe oh-so common ways we avoid, resist, and react to our feelingsWhat to do instead & how to do itHow you’ll benefits from doing it differently   Loved the podcast and want...

Are you feeling like you can fully heal until you make sense of what happened and get closure? You are not alone - this episode is for you. We are talking all things CLOSURE today! Whether you still looking for closure form a ex from years ago, a recent ghoster, a short term or long term relationship - this episode is for you! WHATE YOU WILL LEARN IN THIS EPISODE:Why you want closureWhat closure means to youWhy they haven’t given closure to youWhat’s blocking you from getting closureHOW TO...

If you’re like a lot of my clients, you have grumbled many times about people your messaging with, people on the apps, flakey dates - “The common decent thing to do would be {insert what you think they should be doing instead of what they are currently doing here!” If they’d just ask you out already… If the’d just confirm the date… If they just tell you what they want… All frustrating parts of dating. And part of the reason you shake your head at all these people is because you know how they...

In this episode we discuss how a big piece of the dating games is figuring out if your “wants” and their wants are a match. WHAT YOU’LL LEARN FROM THIS EPISODE:The importance of allowing people to be who they are, and want what they want.Knowing they are free to be them, you are free to be you, and you curiously have fun figuring out if your want matches are a long term match.We can ask for what we want. We can make requests. And then be open to their truth.How we can make requests while...

We think liking someone, feeling chemistry with them, and being attracted to them is an involuntary response to what they look like, what they do, and/or what they say. But in this episode you’re going to learn all about how it’s actually your thoughts about how they look, what they do and what they say that is actually causing your feelings. In this episode you’ll learn:The four ways of thinking that make up your relationshipsHow it is impossible for someone to make you feel love without...

On today’s episode we are jumping into heartache. And I am here to tell you, it is NOT a time and materials equation. For me and my clients, sometimes the short relationships can hurt worse because the person is still “perfect” in your story. We can feel heartbroken after just a few dates or the ending of a short situationship. IN THIS EPISODE YOU’LL LEARNHow and why your brain tries to get you to reconnect with them.How seeking them out can be a stress response just like fight and flight.How...

Today I’m sharing a dozen insights I gained from my 475 dates! An entertaining grab bag of of tips from my experience on the road to finding my person: My fav flirting tip when you on a dateA trick I used to help my anxiety when I was waiting for the guy to text me and ask me out already!One of the best mindsets to adopt about dating and finding your personMy ran through my head when I was informed by Bumble that I ran out of people to swipe on!A snippet of my worst date storiesAnd some more...

Let’s bring on, and bring out, your BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY! For some of my clients, the dating concept of being a high value woman messes with their head. And it messed with my head too when I was dating too - I’ll explain how. I’m offering we focus on getting aligned with our values and bring out our BVE - BIG VALUE ENERGY! In this episode we’ll discuss:How the concept of being a high value woman can send you down into a comparison rabbit hole.How to get aligned with and grounded in the core...

Do you feel a rushed sense of urgency to find your person? Do you have a sinking feeling that something must have gone wrong - because you should have met them by now? Where is he, dammit? You are not alone - this week’s episode is for you :) We are going to explore what creates this hurried feeling in us. How wanting from scarcity feels terrible and how to shift your thinkingHow your brain thinks THERE is better than HERE How your brain seeks outside validation to feel betterHow there are...

Does dating sometimes leave you feeling bummed out, discouraged, and/or frustrated? You’re not alone. There is a way to avoid getting stuck in those feelings. In this week’s episode you’ll learn how focusing your time, energy, and attention on the parts of dating within your control is your SUPER POWER! You’ll learn how to quickly spot when you’re stuck and how to get faster at shifting your focus back on the people and situations that will get you the result you want - to be done with dating...

In this episode I’m going to give you a new way to think about rejection and prove how it really isn’t about you! When it comes to dating, one of our biggest fears is rejection. Rejection stops many of us from even dating in the first place. Rejection makes some of us want to take loooonnnng breaks from dating. The fear of rejection makes many of us hide parts of ourselves. And I want to put a stop that! Good news - you’ve got it wrong when it comes to rejection and I’ll show you how in this...

You know when you feel “confused” about someone you’re dating or getting to know? You sense something is “off”, but you can’t quite pinpoint why? This episode is for you - with the The High Five Relationship Tool - you’ll figure out what is going on, what’s missing, and if it’s worth continuing to invest in the relationship. Or maybe you think you have a “broken picker” - use this tool to become confident you can create the relationship of your dreams. Or is your brain beating yourself up...

Welcome to the stop hating dating and find your person podcast. If you’re looking for coach who has has swiped enough times to have mastered the online dating game and made their dream partner a reality - I’m your coach.  I found mine - now let’s find yours! With four years and 475 online dates under my belt, plus becoming a certified life coach, and starting my dating coach business, There is nothing you can throw at me that my clients or I haven’t been through. I’ve coached 26 year...