“We found this podcast at exactly the right moment, it was essential for making sense of what we were both going through and I will be forever grateful for your wisdom and bravery in sharing your story. It sounds like this may have come at a cost to you, which is unfortunate. As a therapist, I have recommended it to many clients and will continue to do so. As a betrayed spouse, I won’t lie...I’ve rolled my eyes at Coby many times in moments when I struggled to access my compassion. When he calls himself a d-bag, I’ve nodded emphatically in agreement :) The news about the divorce was a surprise but not troubling; these things happen and as much as we know about the story, we don’t know all of it. As a listener/spouse, the only thing I’m struggling with was “traumatizing Ashlynn and daughters” with HOW the news was delivered. This is a big ‘cliffhanger’ that left me with a lot of uncertainty. I can accept the fact that some couples find recovery and still don’t stay together. And the thought of Coby making a unilateral decision like this and delivering the news in some unideal way despite having endless resources to minimize the damage, I guess I’m left not knowing how to feel about him or the show. And that’s ok, sitting with ambiguity is a skill I’ve developed over time. But it definitely replicated the excruciating confusion all betrayed partners are familiar with...what exactly am I healing from/what is this person capable of? Can I trust them/myself? Are they REALLY in recovery? If this had been a “full disclosure” with the audience, this is a detail I would have wanted. Best wishes to all!”
Hlsteig via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
05/24/21