“Given the unique challenges of marriages surviving infidelity and abuse, it’s vitally important that the community of people navigating these tragic circumstances are equipped with thorough and good information. This podcast has been a good resource for this. However, most recently, the podcast implies that a)betrayed women somehow had deficiencies that attracted addicts and b)that Colby threatening divorce (despite a history of infidelity and emotional abuse) was “part of the ups and downs of marriage”
Marriage is hard work. There ARE ups and downs. Those are unique to each couple and it is not my place as a listener to judge your guys’ recovery as it truly does seem to be working for you. I applaud your guys’ courage and willingness to share your story.
However, to have an expert in the field condone a perspective that threatening divorce is “the ups and downs” of marriage is at best, careless, and at worst, irresponsible and harmful to the community of betrayed women seeking some semblance of solid ground in the wake of unimaginable hurt and trauma.
While I don’t doubt that you are well intentioned, as public figures advocating for recovery from betrayal, I would strongly recommend making sure these perspectives are well thought out and filtered appropriately, erring on the side of accountability for the addict and empathy for the betrayed. ESPECIALLY considering that many of your listeners are presumably are in either active addiction and/or acute betrayal trauma.”
halfmeasuresavailedusnothing via Apple Podcasts ·
United States of America ·
08/23/18