Send us a text A lot of people struggle with the concept of reconciling the LS with their religious or spiritual beliefs. So today, Jo shares her thoughts about religion in the LS.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them to PO Box 294 Strafford, MO 6575...

Send us a textIn this episode, Jo talks about how to reject someone with kindness. We all know that rejection IS a part of the LS, and a lot of people struggle with that. They struggle with rejecting others, and also with being rejected themselves. The key to rejecting with kindness is to be clear and concise, and to do it with the intention of freeing them to find a better fit.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin t...

Send us a textLast week, we talked about uncut penes. Everybody has preferences and turn offs, that's totally normal. And, sometimes people cross over into body shaming territory. That's what we're talking about today.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them...

Send us a textThere was a post recently about someone being turned off by uncircumcised penises (penes!), and since a friend had literally JUST talked to me about the topic a day before, I thought it was a sign that I should do an episode about it.So today, I talk about the reasons people may avoid, or seek out, an uncut penis. And I share my own personal preferences. Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the wa...

Send us a textIn this episode, Chad goes solo for the first time, and shares his jealousy struggles. He shares what helped him get through it, and shares some tips for others.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them to PO Box 294 Strafford, MO 65757Book a fr...

Send us a textToday, Jo talks about being successful in the LS. And really, your definition of success is really going to depend on your why, on your reason for being in the LS, and on what you want to get out of it.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them t...

Send us a textJo is publishing an episode she had previously published only on Patreon. In it, she goes through a Making the First Move workshop she had been working on.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them to PO Box 294 Strafford, MO 65757Book a free dis...

Send us a textToday, Jo talks about her struggles with dealing with Chad's negative emotions, and how her trying to "fix" it, trying to "manage" it, actually made things way worse.You can be loving and supportive AND let your partner deal with their own negative, uncomfortable emotions. In fact, they aren't going to be able to move past them if they aren't allowed the freedom of dealing with their own emotions.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): ...

Send us a textJo is joined today by her best friend Steph. They went to Westport, Washington to check out the Westport Hotel Takeover hosted by Club Sapphire out of Seattle. We wanted to share our thoughts and experiences while we were there. Enjoy!Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panti...

Send us a textJo is joined by Chad this week (yay!), and they talk about the times when you OVER communicate. Or you talk things to death, instead of actually taking action and moving forward. Communication is important, or course. And sometimes, there comes a time when talking more isn't effective, and it isn't moving you forward. There are times you get stuck in a holding pattern because of fear. Moral of the story... don't let the fear stop you.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vis...

Send us a textChad and Jo recently visited Paradise Lakes, a nudist/lifestyle resort in Florida, and they share their experiences with you.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them to PO Box 294 Strafford, MO 65757Book a free discovery call and let's talk abo...

Send us a textYou see a lot of cockiness in the LS... people bragging about their sexual skills or prowess. Today, Jo talks about some possible reasons why that happens, and how it's actually NOT about confidence at all.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send th...

Send us a textChad recently sort of hosted an impromptu party at our friend's house while they were out of town, and apparently, it was a great time! Today, we talk about why, and we talk about planning things versus letting them just play out.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! S...

Send us a textDisappointment is bound to happen, even in the LS. It happens when things don't work out the way you want them to, and you're left dealing with those emotions. In today's episode, Jo talks about disappointment, some causes and situations, and then she talks about tips for managing disappointment, and some ways to avoid it in the future.Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming ...

Send us a textLast week, Jo talked about people finding themselves in "natural" D/s dynamics. Staying on the D/s thought train, this week, Jo talks about how thoughts and emotions are ALSO in a D/s dynamic. Thoughts are the Dom (usually); they are in control, or they think they are, and emotions are the sub, the more submissive ones that do as they are told. Or, that's how we WANT to believe. But just like in any kind of D/s dynamic, it's REALLY the sub that has control, and in our bitchy lit...

Send us a textIn this episode, Jo talks about basic Dom/sub relationship dynamics, and how they can and often do show up in everyday vanilla relationships. She talks about the benefits that could come from embracing a more structured D/s dynamic.The video referenced in this episode:What Submissives REALLY Want from their Dominant (youtube.com)Support the showOld music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out...

Send us a textIf you are already an overthinker, the LS can kick your bitchy little brain into overdrive. In today's episode, Jo talks about overthinking and gives some tips to help you manage it.Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them to PO Box 294 Straff...

Send us a Text Message.This is a short mini episode about self-love, and the things that get lost, the things that hide and keep you from the happiness and healing you are seeking.Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some panties! Size large or xl; send them to PO Box 294 Strafford, MO 65757Boo...

Send us a Text Message.Today, Jo interviews Lisa, who has a different Lifestyle why. Lisa has some medical issues that affect her sexually, so she and her husband use the lifestyle to not just enhance their relationship, but to ensure that sexual needs are met.There is no one right way, or one right reason. This episode highlights the many dynamics that are possible, and is a reminder that sometimes, that guy that plays alone really IS for real. Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray...

Send us a Text Message.Let's talk about sex (baby, let's talk about you and me....).Today, Jo is talking about getting better at sex, about being more CONFIDENT about sex.Sex obviously plays a big part in the Lifestyle, and we ALL want to believe that we are good at sex. So today, Jo talks about what she believes make someone good at sex and offers tips for getting better.Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the wa...

Send us a Text Message.Hey everybody! Chad had his YouTube debut!Chad was asked to be a guest on the Open Bedroom Podcast with Jennifer Kaylo. She interviewed Chad and her partner, Scott, in her episode, "Husbands of Podcasters."So today, Chad talks a little bit about that experience, and then we share the episode.Check it out!https://youtu.be/vy2y7qwolIw?si=mCikaTBVs9hVIafQSupport the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the ...

Send us a Text Message.Aging is something that a lot of people struggle with. Especially in the LS, where so much emphasis is placed on sex appeal and physical appearance.But you CAN be confident as you age. That's what this episode is all about.Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your Head (& into their bed) program:Sign Up (theconfidentswinger.com)Send Jo some p...

Send us a Text Message.You have a good relationship. And now, you want to enhance your relationship by getting into the LS. You want to bring that added excitement, that extra spark. But NOT at the expense of your relationship.Basically, you're worried about f-ing up your relationship. That's what today's episode is all about.Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist for the upcoming Get Out of Your He...

Send us a Text Message.In this episode, Jo talks about slowing down in your flirting game. Or, what she likes to call drive by flirting. It's when you don't focus your attention on someone for a long period of time, but you keep coming back to flirting with them throughout the evening.It can be a super helpful tool for people who struggle with being put on displace.Support the Show.Old music (80): X Ray Vision by SlynkNew music (episodes 80+): The Heat by Vladimir ErshovJoin the waitlist ...