Dr. Kelly Casperson is the best-selling author of You Are Not Broken: Stop “Should-ing” All Over Your Sex Life.  She is on to talk to us about how to have a great love life in midlife.  She explains why women need to stop blaming and shaming themselves when it comes to sex. All of the show notes can be found at https://thegoodlifecoach.com/227 RESOURCES MENTIONED JOIN MICHELE’S NEWSLETTER + Receive A Free Curated List of 52 Self-care Tips   WHAT WE DISCUSS: How the medical system is biased towards supporting men and dismissing women. Women are told things like have a glass of wine and relax. Modern medicine is here to help us.  Why we need to stop “shoulding” ourselves with the idea that menopause is natural therefore you shouldn’t need Hormone Therapy. The importance of talking to your partner when things are going well. And why Hollywood and the porn industry convey a false message about what sex should really be like.  As Dr. Kelly says, “It’s fake people.”  Don’t compare your love life to fictionalized characters not representing reality. How women in their twenties don’t have it better. Men don’t know more about our bodies and our pleasure than we do. She shares many myths including the myth that desire should be spontaneous that make women believe they are broken. How the brain is a powerful tool in desire. Combatting vaginal dryness and why Dr. Kelly recommends lube for everyone. The symptoms that arise during menopause and what women can do about it, and more.   RESOURCES MENTIONED Website: https://www.kellycaspersonmd.com/  Book: You Are Not Broken:Stop “Should-ing” All Over Your Sex Life    Thank you for listening to the show. Be sure to share it with a friend!  We love when women empower other women. If you enjoyed this interview, please take a moment to rate and review it on Apple podcasts. Your reviews are so appreciated!