Deep Psychology on Patreon Let’s talk about how to deal with envious people. I’ve been the target of envy for most of the life. Yet until I informed myself about this emotion, I had always been puzzled by the seemingly unprovoked hostility that friends and family showed towards me. Now, I’m able to recognise envy, deflect it before it uncontrollably inflames, and take preventative action. Know that you’re in the driver’s seat. Though it may not seem so, you have the power to control the situation, so long as you don’t do anything silly. It’s the envious person who is out of control.