Fund conversations that matter: donate.accessmore.com Maybe you used to be employed, married, or healthy. When you suffer a loss, you enter the realm of "used to be." Licensed counselor Ashley Elliott is here to help us build new thinking patterns when life doesn't turn out how we thought it would. Ashley and her husband Chuck are the authors of "I Used to Be..." In this episode, you'll learn how to navigate losses in life as we talk about:  2:19 What I used to be... 4:27 How to use “switch theory” to combat negativity  9:04 Here's how you can get back into a positive space with your spouse  11:17 Recognizing the triggers that cause negative spaces  14:08 How to get through your grief  19:00 Understanding your “anger wall” 24:55 How to help others who are grieving  28:28 How to know when to seek help with your grief   Ashley Elliott and her husband Chuck have been working with couples since 2009. They are certified in eight different psycho-educational programs aimed toward building relational success. Ashley is a counselor with Auxilium Psychological Services.  Ashley and Chuck have three boys and enjoy hiking and mountain biking.  Check out Ashley & Chuck's book, I Used to Be... - How to Navigate Large and Small Losses in life and Find Your Path Forward.  You're invited to the Parents Rising Conference in San Diego, CA on March 2, 2024.  Speakers include Dr. Gary Chapman, Arlene, Bill Pam Farrel, and Sally Burke. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/conference More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours.  Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel