Back on the show as guest is Dana Pharant. Dana is a dominatrix, master healer and life strategist who helps people, specifically women, to tap into their inner dominatrix.   Dana has a new book out and we came to talk about it on this episode. We had an amazing and honest conversation where we discussed consent, negotiation, counterintuitive thoughts on what it means to be a dominatrix, and how to be a dominatrix in business.   Some of the talking points we delved into include:   The fact that authenticity comes with ruffling other people’s feathers. (03:08) Preconceived notions about the dominatrix characteristic. (04:57) How being dominated actually means complete control. (07:45) Introducing the concept of consensual negotiation to people who may not be aware of their preferences and desires in bed and business. (13:02) Applying the safe, sane and consensual framework in business policies, work ethics, and organizational culture. (26:27) Working on an individual's programming and values to let go of expectations and judgment to fulfill one's potential. (31:51) Our thoughts on 'enlightenment', self-help gurus, and how (some of) it can get cultish. (36:17) Training and developing intuition to override the 'monkey mind'. (42:58) Discerning among the self-help gurus out there and how some can be more harmful than helpful. (46:27) Dana's new book and the parts Dana loved writing the most – being in the dungeon, shadow work, and her life experiences. (53:44) The feminine and masculine energy and integrating them to create a spiritual practice in the different facets of our lives. (55:03) The misconception that being dominant equates to abrasiveness or being a bitch. (57:30) An awesome analogy on the importance of making an inward change to improve our conditions. (1:03:11) Why judgment is a waste of energy. (1:05:38)   Get Dana’s new book The Inner Dominatrix Guide: Become a Badass in Business available on Amazon today. For resources and information on the book, go to InnerDominatrix [dot] com. To know more about Dana and the services she provides, check her website   Share this fun, authentic, and insightful episode to your network. I know a lot of people will find the things we chatted about informative too. Remember to go to adamandeve.com and enter the code SexTalks to get 50% off and FREE shipping on any one product.  Thoughts, suggestions, inquiries? Email me at Ryan [at] theintimatelifestyle [dot] com. Your feedback is highly appreciated to improve the show.   Remember to leave us a rating on iTunes.   And check out all the Sex Toys, Coaching, Courses and more at www.theintimatelifestyle.com/access.