What’s missing in my relationship? Does an affair automatically mean the end of a relationship? What should we do in the heat of an argument? Despite our countless questions, we don’t seem to put much money, time and learning into how to be the best partner until it’s too late. Janine Bird is a relationship expert and the Director of Relationship Rescue based in Auckland, where her practice stems from a combination of up-to-date research, evidence-based practice, and her personal experience of an abusive relationship. Think about it: when we’re in an argument, our habitual coping mechanisms literally shut off our brains and we’re left with survival instincts – attack, defend, run away or freeze. When this happens to your partner too, you’ve got the two dumbest parts of your brains butting heads trying to solve a problem – it’s never going to happen. This episode is packed with insights, advice, scenarios, and tools, and they’re for everyone – whether you’re feeling mostly satisfied in your relationship to overcoming major heartbreak and mistrust, you’ll finish this episode feeling as if you’ve been through a session with Janine yourself.